My father had a cousin that was his age. His name was Ronnie.
At that time, this cousin; also from Polish Hill in Pittsburgh, was married with a woman named Flo.
I don’t know the full relationship, but somehow I think that he was a second cousin. The son of my grandfathers’ brother.
It was the early 1960s, late 1950s or so. And Ronnie was a fashionable guy.

Anyways, Ronnie and Flo had children our age.
And we played with them. A boy and a girl. Exactly the same age as me and my sister.
We went from sleeping together in the playpen to exploring the world into second grade as students in a private Catholic elementary school in Bridgeport.
Oh, for certain, we eventually moved away, and lost contact with them.
From time to time though the 1960s we would occasionally visit their new house. They had moved back to Pittsburgh; a tiny home located in a gully under a highway that crossed a viaduct.
The last time we (us kids) played together was shortly after my paternal grandfather died. I guess I was 12 or 13 or so. It was a long time ago. I don’t remember the details very clearly.
Later on… about when I was 16 or so, I attended a funeral of a distant relative, and met Ronnie there. He was busy and could only devote a few moments with us.
Now, I don’t know what has happened with that family of relatives. As time goes on, the family gets cracks, and breaks apart, and new families and relationships form. And all that lasts are the memories that once was.
But I do remember Ronnie and Flo in their stylish 1960 outfits, Flo’s “beehive” hair, and my mother and Flo gossiping over cigarettes and coffee in the kitchen.

Times change.
Memories can stay or disappear. But the times deserve remembrance.
Today…
Title: Sir Whiskerton and the Pumpkin Predicament
Ah, dear reader, welcome back! Once again, you’ve come seeking a tale of intrigue, humor, and, of course, my unparalleled brilliance as the farm’s greatest (and only) detective. Today’s mystery revolves around a missing prize-winning pumpkin, a vegetable so massive and revered that its disappearance threw the entire farm into turmoil. Alongside my trusty companions—Porkchop the pig, Sedgwick the barn owl, and Rufus the raccoon—we embarked on a journey of twists, turns, and squash-related shenanigans. Prepare yourself for the uproarious tale of The Pumpkin Predicament.
The Disappearance
The day began innocently enough. The farm was abuzz with excitement because Farmer Joe’s prize-winning pumpkin, affectionately named “Big Bertha,” was set to be loaded onto the wagon and taken to the county fair that very afternoon. Big Bertha was no ordinary pumpkin; she was a giant, perfectly round, glowing orange marvel that had been the talk of the farm all season.
But when Farmer Joe went to retrieve her from the pumpkin patch, she was gone.
“MY PUMPKIN!” Farmer Joe bellowed, his voice echoing across the fields. “SHE’S GONE!”
I was lounging on my favorite fence post, enjoying the crisp autumn air, when the shout reached my ears. My tail flicked in annoyance as I leapt down to investigate. A missing pumpkin? Not exactly a high-stakes case, but I suspected there was more to this story than met the eye.
When I reached the pumpkin patch, I found Farmer Joe scratching his head, a bewildered look on his face. The other animals had gathered as well, including Porkchop, who looked suspiciously guilty; Rufus, who looked suspiciously amused; and Sedgwick, who looked as calm and wise as ever.
“Well, well,” I said, surveying the empty spot where Big Bertha had once proudly sat. “A missing pumpkin. This is certainly… unusual.”
“Unusual?” Porkchop exclaimed. “It’s a disaster! That pumpkin was supposed to win first prize at the fair!”
“And now it’s gone,” Rufus added with a grin. “Probably rolled off on an adventure. Can pumpkins do that?”
“Highly unlikely,” Sedgwick said, ruffling his feathers. “This is no accident. Someone—or something—must have taken it.”
“Exactly,” I said, my whiskers twitching with determination. “Let’s get to work.”
The Investigation Begins
The first thing I noticed was a set of tracks leading away from the pumpkin patch. They were large and round, as though something heavy had been dragged across the ground.
“Roll marks,” I said, pointing to the trail. “It looks like Big Bertha was rolled away.”
“Rolled?” Porkchop repeated, his snout twitching nervously. “Who would roll a pumpkin that big? It must’ve weighed more than I do!”
“Who would dare take Big Bertha?” Rufus said, feigning shock. “She’s practically a celebrity.”
“Let’s follow the trail,” Sedgwick suggested, flapping onto a nearby fence post to get a better view. “The culprit may not be far.”
The First Clue
The trail led us to the barnyard, where we found a curious sight: several strands of hay scattered across the ground, along with a faint smell of… molasses?
“Molasses?” Porkchop said, sniffing the air. “Why does it smell like molasses?”
“Odd,” Sedgwick said, tilting his head. “Hay and molasses are often used to lure livestock. Perhaps someone was attempting to bait an animal.”
“Or bribe one,” I muttered, narrowing my eyes at Rufus. “Care to explain, Rufus?”
“Hey, don’t look at me!” Rufus said, raising his paws defensively. “I’m not a pumpkin thief. Besides, if I had taken it, I wouldn’t leave a trail this obvious.”
“Hmm,” I said, my tail flicking thoughtfully. “Let’s keep following the trail.”
The Suspect: Clover the Goat
The trail of hay and molasses led us to the goat pen, where Clover the goat was chewing on what appeared to be a piece of orange rind. She froze when she saw us, her eyes wide with guilt.
“Clover,” I said, my voice sharp. “What are you eating?”
“Nothing,” Clover said quickly, hiding the rind behind her hoof.
“Clover,” Sedgwick said in his calm but authoritative tone, “we’re investigating the disappearance of Big Bertha. Do you know anything about it?”
“Me? No! Of course not!” Clover stammered. “I didn’t take the pumpkin! I just… found this rind lying around.”
“Lying around where?” I pressed.
“Near the haystack,” Clover admitted. “But I swear, I didn’t take it! I couldn’t roll a pumpkin that big even if I tried.”
“She’s telling the truth,” Sedgwick said, his keen eyes studying Clover closely. “Clover may have found the rind, but she’s not our thief.”
“Then we keep looking,” I said, my resolve strengthening. “The trail isn’t cold yet.”
The Culprit Caught Red-Pawed
The trail led us to the edge of the orchard, where we found the culprit: a gang of mischievous squirrels. They were frantically trying to push Big Bertha up a small hill, their tiny paws slipping and sliding as they struggled with the pumpkin’s massive weight.
“Well, well,” I said, stepping forward. “Caught in the act.”
The squirrels froze, their beady eyes darting between me, Sedgwick, Rufus, and Porkchop. One of them squeaked nervously and tried to roll the pumpkin away, but Sedgwick swooped down, blocking their path.
“Enough,” Sedgwick said firmly. “Explain yourselves.”
The largest squirrel stepped forward, wringing his tiny paws. “We didn’t mean any harm,” he squeaked. “We just wanted to carve it into a giant squirrel house. It’s getting cold, and we thought it’d make a great shelter!”
“A squirrel house?” Porkchop said, looking both confused and impressed. “That’s… actually kind of clever.”
“But it’s not your pumpkin,” I said sternly. “Big Bertha belongs to Farmer Joe, and she’s supposed to be entered in the county fair.”
The squirrels hung their heads in shame. “We’re sorry,” the leader said. “We’ll give it back.”
The Resolution
With the squirrels’ help, we rolled Big Bertha back to the pumpkin patch, where she was restored to her rightful place. Farmer Joe was overjoyed to have her back and promised to share some pumpkin pie with the squirrels after the fair.
As for Porkchop, Rufus, and Sedgwick, they each played their part in ensuring the case was solved. Porkchop provided muscle when rolling the pumpkin, Rufus kept the squirrels from running off again, and Sedgwick’s wisdom ensured that cooler heads prevailed.
“Well done, team,” I said as we watched Farmer Joe load Big Bertha onto the wagon. “Once again, order has been restored to the farm.”
“And once again, I didn’t get any credit,” Rufus muttered.
“You got an apple earlier,” I reminded him.
“Fair point,” Rufus admitted.
The Moral of the Story
Sometimes, misunderstandings can lead to mischief, but with teamwork, patience, and a little forgiveness, even the biggest problems can be resolved. And remember: always think before you roll off with someone else’s pumpkin.
The End.
China’s Done With USA: Brutal 54% Tariff Signals End Of Trade, BRICS Is The Future
How was China able to produce 6th generation fighters years before the US even made a prototype?
Pressing need.
China has 14 neighbors sharing one of the world’s longest land borders. It also has a 14,000km coastline ring-fenced by America’s 3 island chains that stretches across most of the pacific.
In the north, there is powerful Russia that is proving more than a match in the special military operation against Nato in Ukraine.
In the southwest, there is India, a million strong military rapidly modernizing with the support of a similar billion-strong citizenry base.
Japan is doubling its military budget.
South Korea declared martial law recently, with the original plan to weave a false flag attack by North Korea as justification.
The Taiwan card remains in play by the US, and the fallout has been rekindled in the Philippines.
The region isn’t peaceful, so China needs all the edge it can create to make others think twice about hurting Chinese interests, especially the issue of Taiwan.
America is angry with Canada and Mexico for sending endless streams of “refugees” and drugs, and not threats to the dominance of the f-22 and f-35.
After all, only Russia and China (besides the US) are capable of making stealth aircraft with powerful sensors and data fusion on board.
I’ll leave the exclusion of the Korean Boramae and the Turkish Kaan to the learned reader to decipher.
In “Sully” (2016 movie), how did the airplane glide down after it lost both engines instead of immediately turning into a free fall downwards?
Airplanes do not drop like a rock from the sky if the engines die.
The wings are still providing lift, as long as the plane is moving forwards.
The pilots will choose the best rate of descent to maximize glide distance, trading altitude for speed. Air Transat Flight 236 lost power in both engines over the Atlantic Ocean, and glided 75 miles to land in the Azores.
A plane only “drops” if it is not going fast enough to maintain air flow over the wings to generate lift — this is a “stall.” Of course, as it drops, it gains speed, and the pilot again has control.
China Just Changed the Future of America with THIS One Move!
An outstanding video.
The existence of this aircraft is a very big deal.
Torta Italiano

Yield: 10 servings
Ingredients
- 2 cups buttermilk baking mix
- 3/4 cup skim milk
- 1 pound lean ground turkey
- 1 small onion, chopped
- 1 large garlic clove, minced
- 1 teaspoon Italian seasoning
- 1/8 teaspoon salt and black pepper
- 1 can tomato sauce
- 10 ounces frozen spinach, chopped, thawed and drained
- 1 cup mozzarella cheese, shredded
Instructions
- Heat oven to 350 degrees F.
- Combine biscuit mix and milk.
- Spray springform pan with vegetable oil spray. Spread biscuit mix evenly over base.
- Chop onion.
- Brown ground turkey in skillet. Drain excess liquid. Add onion, garlic, seasonings, and tomato sauce to turkey. Combine and cook for 2 to 3 minutes.
- Spread turkey mixture over biscuit mi. Layer spinach over meat mixture. Top spinach layer with cheese.
- Bake for 35 minutes.
- Remove from oven and cool for 10 minutes.
- Run a knife gently around collar before removal.
Attribution
Pampered Chef
Will China likely make two different 6th generation multi role fighter jets, like they have done with making two 5th Gen’s? One land based and one for carrier ops?
China will most likely make 3 different 6th generation aircraft.
- Will be the JH-26 long range supersonic stealth bomber. This is in the mold of theTU-160M but with stealth characteristics. The design advantage of the JH-26 lies in its improved stealth performance and maneuverability.

Its weight class reaches 45 to 50 tons and its mission may be to attack US aircraft carriers. There are rumors that it has already started test flying

2. Second fighter in development is the 6th generation air dominance fighter yet to be named this would compete with the NGAD, Tempest, FCAS and MiG-41.

3. Lastly will be the H-20 bomber to compete with the B-21 raider and PAK-DA which is also in development.

Make People Go Crazy for You
1. Be Confident – Confidence attracts.
2. Show Interest – Listen and care.
3. Be Kind – Treat others with respect.
4. Stay Positive – Positivity is magnetic.
5. Have Humor – Laughter builds connections.
6. Be Ambitious – Passion is captivating.
7. Take Care of Yourself – Prioritize health.
8. Be Authentic – Genuine people stand out.
drunk text to my ex destroyed 5 years of marriage in just one night
https://youtu.be/RfYhzNmg_jo
it sings to itself
Submitted into Contest #207 in response to: A journalist has been granted permission to visit the premises of a lab carrying out top-secret work. They could never have anticipated what they’d find…… view prompt
Masha Kurbatova
Class is alright. The journalism part is. The science labs, the mandatory hands-on component, Bianca stumbles through. I think she’d be quite good — steady hands, a head fit for numbers — but she doesn’t try.
The hunger grows. Bianca can’t ignore it. She wants more. When she’s offered a two-week summer stint reporting on research from Venus, she takes it.
The girls go to the speakeasy the night before she leaves. Bianca leans on the bar with both elbows, begs the bartender to come hither with her eyes, but he’s milling about in the far other corner. Bianca just wants another drink, please, and her friend wants another seltzer also.
The night’s show is done. Timme leans on the bar too. The show’s done. He’s parched.
Inches between them feel electric, but Bianca’s sure only she feels it. Timmy is a trumpet player with a few thousand followers, hardly a celebrity, but still, she feels the shyness of being so close to a star. He smiles, a sweaty nod of recognition.
She must say something. “I loved your show.”
“Thank you. What’s your name?”
“Bianca.”
Timmy raises an open palm to the bartender, who floats over immediately.
“Bianca. I’ve seen you at our past couple shows.”
“Yeah. I’m gonna miss the next couple. I’m going to Venus for a few weeks. I’m doing some reporting for my capstone project.”
“You know they call Venus the planet of love?”
A bit corny, Bianca thinks, but the guy’s got a brand to maintain. The bartender sets an amber glass before him. Timmy wipes his middle finger around and around the rim. He picked that up from film-noirs.
“Well, it’s a shame you won’t be here,” he continues. “We’ll miss you at our shows. Tell me all about Venus when you get back.”
“Um yeah. Sure.”
Timmy smiles so warmly. He follows Bianca back on instagram. He says such niceties that border on flirtations and maybe he is serious. She does have a crush on him, the way we all do on talented people we see regularly and from afar. But what’s the point? She’s going to space.
***
Bianca’s parents are of the Earth-bound generation. Her mother had cried into the phone when Bianca first said she was going to Venus.
“Imagine how happy your grandfather will be!” Mother said so sappily.
Grandpa Steve, a former engineer for an oil company, had spent a lifetime collecting pictures and films and tidbits of quotes and facts and snippets of interviews about rockets. Space travel came too late: by the time it was easy, he was too feeble.
Bianca doesn’t think about him. She feels ungrateful. People break through Earth’s atmosphere all the time nowadays — six of her friends went to space for undergrad study-abroads — and also, her first days on Venus suck. Constant sunlight and a slight change in gravity nauseates the mammal within her. She’s in bed, blinds drawn, choking down vomit.
The atmosphere of Venus is damp, rich-scented like mildew. You can breathe there without equipment. Doesn’t mean you should. The air is peppered with spores; they lodge in lungs and spew poison. Bianca doesn’t know. No one on her team does. Four people — her, the two PhD candidates, the senior researcher — spend their time outside unmasked.
Training begins on Tuesday. Does it make sense to measure Venus’ fast orbit and slow rotation in Earth’s days? I don’t know. In this program, they do. All four team members must report to the main cabin for safety procedures, research protocols. There’s five cabins altogether, used by the rotating groups of students, researchers, and occasional tourists that cycle through the planet each month. The cabins are built with aluminum. Four are for housing, and the main, larger one’s for gatherings, and doubles as the lab. The cabins are but a few feet from each other. Bianca can’t make it that far. She still can’t stand without throwing up.
The PhD candidates, Viv and Tom, are tall, with dry muscles like beef jerky. Their brains are scalpels, slicing through the confusion of flesh and sensation, distilling life into spreadsheet data points. They’re young, but older than Bianca. Perhaps they don’t take her seriously because she’s a baby. Perhaps it’s because she’s only the journalist, tasked with the simplest lab stuff, there mostly to — write? Maybe? Either way, no one cares when she’s not at training.
When her space sickness ceases, it’s day four of fourteen. Time for the team’s first expedition. Viv and Tom wear hiking boots and cargo shorts. They’re joined by the senior researcher, a 4 foot something woman with a face like a walnut and a mind like a nutcracker. Her silver hair is in two braided ropes down to her stomach. The trio stands beside the main cabin, discussing something serious. When Bianca shows up, they fall silent. When they take off, on foot, they let her carry the backpack. Inside are vials, machines, measurement tools. Bianca’s not really sure what else.
Much of Venus is green and fuzzy. There’s acres of forests of fungi. The growths rise as high as Earth’s trees, and are shaped like its stalagmites, green rounded pillars soft and moist to touch. The ground is green too, and Viv and Tom’s boots leave deep prints, like walking on wet sand.
The farther they go, the higher the growth. The sun is soon blotted out by a fungal canopy. They’re in the cool heart of an undisturbed forest.
Out come the steel needles, the vials, the long-wired gauges and gadgets, snatched out of the backpack and pierced into the malleable trunks of the largest fungi. Bianca is glad to stop walking. Those three hike so fast.
She watches them work. She tries to take note of procedures. She’d taken a course in astromycology just last semester, but passed only because she sucked up so much to that professor. She has no idea what Viv and Tom and the researcher are actually doing.
They’ve split apart, Viv descending even deeper, hopping over the protruding dark green mycelia. The researcher is prodding a trunk, her hands peeling away fuzzy, as if she touched mold. Bianca stays behind, near Tom. He’s pretty cute. Bespectacled, with a stubbled chin, because geniuses in space have no time to shave. His clothes are kind of crumpled. His young face is already lined; so much frowning from serious contemplation of serious things. He’s like the math tutor you have a crush on.
Bianca considers starting conversation. But he’s deep in a squat, elbows between knees, bending over a device with a glowing screen, writing down numbers in a notebook. She won’t disturb him. She contemplates the scenery instead. She’ll remember all this for her report, the sensory stuff. She’ll catch up on and fill in the science stuff later.
Gold-amber sunlight streams through in strips, highlighting the spores rising like flecks of dust. How similar this dim light is to that of the speakeasy. She breathes deep, wanting to remember the scent. Millions of the spores that will eventually kill her settle inside her with each inhale.
Now, reader, you surely dream of faraway places. Beaches with white sizzling sands crawling with crabs; sun-bleached ruins of older, wiser civilizations; outer space; all-included B&B; arctic cruise liners; the cool arms of a cool girl who really gets you for you. But it’s you that’s there. With all your gross human petty aches and desires, and your small stupid clouded mind stuffed with stereotypes and preconceived notions. Places don’t really change you. Isn’t that sad?
Bianca feels bad, but she’s bored. Tom’s still doing something. She sits down. She yawns. She hasn’t been sleeping well. She thinks about the bed in the cabin, a creaky and flimsy construction she can’t wait to return to. She thinks about her bed at home. Maybe when she returns, she’ll splurge on one of those mattresses they advertise all the time with the cooling foam and the sleep number. It’s premature to think about Timmy in that bed with her, right? Still, she lingers deliciously on that daydream.
It’s only when they return to the lab that she realizes: sitting down stained her butt green. Viv points it out, gently. They laugh.
Viv: “It’s ok! I sat down on my nephew’s chocolate Easter bunny once. It melted all over my jeans. When I got up, he called me poopy pants!”
They laugh more. As Viv removes filled vials and scrawled-over notebooks from the backpack, and Bianca pretends to help, they assume the easy rhythms of girl-conversation.
Tom comes, holding a test tube rack. Seriousness carves into his face. The girls stop laughing.
“Do you know how to prepare microscope slides?” he asks Bianca.
“Um.”
“I’ll show her,” Viv offers.
The lab is cold, bright, gleaming with glass and fluorescence. Viv flits like a bird between stations, grabbing vials and pipettes. She shows Bianca the slides, the steps. Bianca copies like a clever little monkey. This isn’t even hard. She’ll do all the slides, easy.
Viv trusts her pupil enough, and disappears to her bench. Tom clicks away at his own work. Bianca is concentrating. The slides soon hold small samples of fungus, green and translucent commas atop rectangles of glass.
She’s a real scientist, she thinks. This is what being a kid with chemistry set was like, pure focus, exploration, the excitement of near-discovery like a sneeze begging to be expelled.
“Hey, Tom,” Viv calls out. “You should tell Bianca about the time you ate that poisonous fungus.”
“Shuuuuuut the fuuuuuuuck uuuup,” he yells from his corner. He cracks his first white-teeth smile of the trip.
“Mr. Mycology Expert here,” Viv tells Bianca, meeting her eyes over microscopes, “Was sooo sure he knew what edible mushrooms looked like, and we’re on this research trip all over Europe, right, collecting spore prints, and we find one he says he can eat, but I think is poisonous, but he eats it anyway, and we spend the rest of that trip in the hospital while he hangs on to life by a thread.”
“That’s so scary,” says Bianca. To Tom: “Are you better now at figuring out which fungi are toxic?”
Tom rolls his eyes. “Uh, yeah.”
The flow is now three-way. The trio is chatting, passing the ball of conversation quite easily. A window in the lab shows Venus outside, green and swirling, a promise offered and answered. Bianca is here with her gorgeous scientist friends. The world around her is weird and wild. This is what she sought.
Bianca tells them about Timmy. She doesn’t realize how big her movements get. Arms sweeping, eyes wide with her story. A hand flying too fast: contact with the box of slides. They crash, off the lab bench, and spill. The slides splinter.
Bianca: “Oh, fuck. I’m so sorry. I’ll clean it up.”
Bianca, all panicky, seeks the broom. Her anxious eyes pass by it six times before she spots it in the supply closet. Hot guilt bites her cheeks.
She returns, broom in hand. Tom and Viv are bent over the shards. They giggle. Bianca’s soul slides into her stomach, a high school feeling — they’re laughing at her. She comes closer, but they don’t stop, or look at her.
Reader, you’ve seen lovers. They pull on each other like the taffy machine, stretching a great big confectionery rope over and over and back together. Tom and Viv are doing that thing that neither you nor Bianca can manage: hunger so deep for another person that you ask to be fed by them again and again. Lovers always find something to say, tease about, like puppies biting each other to make the other chase. Here too, on the planet of love, they manage. On Venus as it is on Earth.
***
Two weeks are up. The team is going home, back on the rocket. Bianca is held inside it by x-crossing seatbelts. She’s sat by the porthole. A deep dark lonely cosmos stares at her. She stares back with glazed eyes. Her mind is elsewhere. She imagines talking to Timmy. She composes her monologue for him, not her friends, her parents, or her rocket-yearning grandfather.
Timmy, you know how they used to say Venus was unfit for life? I can’t believe how wrong people were, even just a few decades ago. I mean, I suppose we couldn’t have known for certain. No one had ever been here before. But Venus is more lush than any sliver of jungle we’ve remaining on Earth, but with fungus, not trees. I quite like the fungus. I think you would, too. It loves music, just like you. If you lean in close enough to the roots — sorry, the mycelium — you hear this humming noise. It’s singing to itself, I think. I wish you’d been here with me. You would’ve loved it.
How Bianca is so confident that a man she’s spoken to once would love the peculiar atmosphere of Venus, I’m really not sure.
Oh, right — reader, you’re probably worried about the poisonous spores. They’ve lodged in the crew’s lungs. The moisture of the tissue draws forth mycelia, which soon will sprout into thick fungus that chokes living organs.
Fortunately, “soon” is relative. For mushrooms that live millions of year, a human life span isn’t long. It’s 60 years before the fungus sprouts and is toxic. Viv and Tom and Bianca and the senior researcher die from it, but they would’ve been dead by then anyway.
Maybe you wonder, did Timmy and Bianca get together? I don’t know. You tell me. It doesn’t really matter.
How to Make a Narcissist Miserable – 6 Things They Hate
Today, we’re stepping into a subject that’s as real as it gets: narcissists. These people thrive on control, manipulation, and putting themselves on pedestals. Now, we don’t play games to hurt anyone, but sometimes life demands you to stand firm and protect your peace. If you’re dealing with a narcissist, you’ve got to know how to reclaim your power without stooping to their level.
Let’s talk about six things narcissists hate not to attack, but to empower yourself and show them you’re not to be toyed with.
1. They Hate Being Ignored
Narcissists are masters of manipulation, experts at spinning words and situations to provoke a reaction from you. Their entire game is built around control, and they achieve it by pulling you into their web of drama, conflict, and mind games. They thrive when they can make you doubt yourself, question your worth, or react emotionally to their antics.
But when you choose to disengage to simply not react you throw their entire playbook into chaos. Ignoring a narcissist doesn’t mean you’re weak or indifferent; it means you’re reclaiming your power. They hate being ignored because your attention is their fuel. Whether they’re showering you with false praise or trying to bait you with criticism, their goal is always the same: to keep you emotionally hooked.
When you don’t respond, it’s like cutting off the supply they desperately need. Their tactics whether it’s gaslighting, guilt-tripping, or passive aggression begin to lose their effectiveness the moment you stop feeding into them. Your silence becomes their frustration; your composure, their defeat.
2. They Despise Boundaries
Narcissists loathe boundaries because boundaries represent something they cannot control: your autonomy and self-respect. They thrive on encroaching into your personal space, your emotional territory, and even your sense of self. When you draw a line and stand firm, it sends a message they can’t ignore: This is my space, my rules, and you cannot cross them.
Establishing and enforcing boundaries is one of the most powerful moves you can make, and it’s something narcissists despise. Setting boundaries is not just about saying no to their demands; it’s about making a clear declaration of your values, needs, and limits. It’s about refusing to engage in the toxic dance they try to lead.
3. They Can’t Stand a Lack of Validation
A narcissist’s entire existence revolves around their need for validation. Their sense of self-worth is fragile, and they rely on external praise, admiration, and constant affirmation to prop up their inflated self-image. It’s not enough for them to feel good about themselves; they need others to do the heavy lifting by constantly feeding their ego.
This is where you have an incredibly powerful tool: refusing to validate their ego. When you stop providing them with the constant admiration they crave, you break down the foundation of their self-constructed reality.
4. They Are Threatened by Confidence
Confidence is the armor that protects you from the narcissist’s attempts to diminish your self-worth. It’s not about being loud or overtly assertive; true confidence is rooted in a deep, unwavering belief in your values and abilities. When you possess genuine confidence in yourself, it’s like a shield that the narcissist’s manipulative tactics cannot penetrate.
For a narcissist, confidence is a direct threat. They feed off the insecurity of others, using it to control, manipulate, and belittle. But when you walk into a room with your head held high, unapologetically owning your space, they are faced with a force they cannot manipulate.
5. They Can’t Handle Seeing You Thrive Without Them
One of the most powerful ways to make a narcissist miserable is to show them that you can thrive without them. Narcissists thrive on the belief that they are irreplaceable and that they are the source of your happiness, success, or emotional stability. They love the idea of being the center of your world, controlling your thoughts, actions, and emotions.
But when you start to live your life independently, flourishing without their presence, you challenge their very perception of themselves as essential. Thriving without a narcissist is not just about surviving in their absence; it’s about living in such a way that their absence is barely noticed or even better, it becomes a footnote in your life.
6. They Are Disarmed by Your Calmness
One of the most powerful ways to break free from the hold of a narcissist is by staying calm in the storm. Narcissists thrive on chaos, drama, and emotional upheaval. They rely on triggering your emotions to create confusion, manipulate your reactions, and keep you in a constant state of instability.
But when you learn to stay calm in the storm when you refuse to be rattled by their antics you disarm their ability to control you. Staying calm in the storm isn’t about suppressing your emotions or pretending that things are fine when they’re not. It’s about maintaining control over how you respond to the narcissist’s behavior.
Reclaiming Your Power
At the end of the day, dealing with a narcissist is about taking back control. It’s about recognizing their tactics and not allowing them to manipulate, control, or define you. When you ignore their tactics, establish boundaries, refuse to validate their ego, and remain confident in your self-worth, you are dismantling the power they once held over you.
As you begin to thrive without them showing that your happiness and success don’t depend on their approval you make them realize that they are not the center of your world. When you remain calm in the storm, you create an impenetrable shield around your peace, refusing to be provoked or pulled into their chaos.
Ultimately, it’s not about fighting back or seeking revenge; it’s about rising above, holding your ground, and becoming the best version of yourself. By doing so, you rob the narcissist of their primary source of power: your emotional vulnerability. You become a force that cannot be easily shaken and that, my friends, is how you make a narcissist miserable.
Run For Your LIVES: Russia Activated The World’s Most Powerful and Destructive System ‘PERIMETER’
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The Breaking Point: How Women Are Shattering Men’s Psyche
Needs to be said.
Proof Positive
Submitted into Contest #207 in response to: A journalist has been granted permission to visit the premises of a lab carrying out top-secret work. They could never have anticipated what they’d find…… view prompt
John K Adams
Matthias led Howard into the computer room.
Howard watched him. ‘Sometimes even bad pennies pay off. Follow the money.’
Matthias pointed and said, “This is the A-Omega-7 Triple Helix computer. It’s dedicated solely to my experiments. Take a look at our most recent results.”
He handed Howard several folders and pointed to a chair at a table. Opening each in turn, the abstracts were eye opening. Two papers analyzed deep space data reaching back to the Big Bang. The other paper’s topics were impenetrable.
Big Bang, entanglement, weak force, quark – Howard knew the words. But what they meant in context bewildered him – a fact he kept to himself.
“You want me to translate this into English?”
“As only you can.”
“I’m not a physicist. Find someone else.”
“You’re the best. And I owe you.”
Howard nodded and thought, ‘You do owe me. But that was long ago. And we were both victims of circumstance.’
Howard admitted to himself the research was over his head. Hoping for clarity, he scanned down to the abstracts’ conclusions.
After each, he looked up in wonderment. Matthias nodded and smiled.
Matthias said, “Each of these would have stunned Einstein. His work implied this but even he didn’t dream…”
“I’m not sure… You have fingerprints…?”
“Not only. If this were a paternity test, we have His DNA, so to speak, His signature on the birth cert and His address.”
Howard couldn’t hide his confusion.
“The upshot… we have proof.” Matthias raised his arms in triumph.
Howard spread the folders across the table. “But of what? What does this…?”
“God!”
“God?”
“Yes! The Creator. The Almighty. Maker of all things… proof He exists!”
Howard scanned the room in awe. He said, “But wait. You need proof? Isn’t it self-evident? Look around…”
Matthias didn’t listen. “Don’t you get it? When other sites replicate our findings, it will be irrefutable.”
“Yeah, but… well… Welcome to the party.”
“So, the reason I called you in – I need to leak this.”
Howard shook his head. “You can’t leak…”
“It’ll get more attention if people think the government is suppressing vital…”
“I cannot write about it, Matthias.”
“Why not? This is completely under wraps. I’m handing you the scoop of the millennium.”
“We’d lose credibility. It’s not news.”
“Even when the results get objectively confirmed?”
“Maybe especially then. You understand the implications?”
“Of course. You must release this. It will change the world.”
“It might end it.”
Now Matthias looked confused.
Howard sighed, “Look, let’s say you’re right about this earth-shattering news. Everyone will claim your work as their sacred scripture. Wars for possession will rage. They’d claim it points to their god.”
Matthias shook his head. “It doesn’t work that way. No one owns this. It’s a matter of who belongs to God, not the other way around.”
“Sure. Right in principle. But we’re talking about humans here. People always create God in their own image. Reduce the sublime to the ridiculous. These documents would become idols to fight over.”
Matthias saw his point. He stepped back, sobbed and wiped his eyes.
Howard continued. “Once published, critics will claim a misplaced comma disproved your evidence. Thrown out because a zero should have been a one.”
“A typo is easily fixed. The results stand. Once vetted and replicated, people will unite around truth.”
“Believers will say ‘you cannot test God,’ or subject Him to proofs. Confining Him in a computer – an abomination… a fool’s game.”
Matthias opened the electrical panel. “My life’s work… Should I destroy it? Have I done something wrong?”
“Relax Matthias. Look. Some people see a magician pull a trick and won’t believe it’s sleight of hand. Others witness some historical event – like the moon landing – and can’t accept it really happened.”
“I called you in. You seek the truth.”
“Thank you for that. But the truth is out there. Everywhere. For everyone. Written in the stars.” He held up a folder. “These bits and bytes will neither convince a doubter nor confirm the believer. We’re throwing noodles, hoping something sticks.”
Matthias paced in frustration. “You think this is meaningless?”
“Of course not. But God doesn’t need our assistance. He needs the faithful. And their faith weighs more than proof.”
Matthias paused. He flipped through the reports.
“What if these discoveries bolstered people’s faith? This might knock some off the right side of the fence.”
Howard considered the question. Vague, unfocused spirituality was ascendant and deep belief had become an afterthought. ‘Thousands of denominations and no one goes to church.’
“You have a point, Matthias. Everyone’s hot to ‘follow the science’ these days. What if science points to, bows to God?”
“That would open some eyes. Hoped you’d see it my way.”
They nodded. Understanding settled in. Howard cleared the table. Matthias brought a legal pad and some pens.
“Coffee?”
“Thought you’d never ask.”
“I’ll make fresh.”
~
Not yet visible, the sun had brightened the sky by the time Howard left the facility and walked to his rental car.
They had a plan. Howard carried a thumb drive containing the essential reports and abstracts of Matthias’ profound discovery. Matthias trusted Howard to leak it at a time of his choosing. He needn’t wait for the results of other site’s vetting of the data.
Howard smiled. The truth has a way of coming to light.
China’s 6th Gen Fighter-What We Know
White House Lacks Financial Literacy – ‘Tariffs’ Show
Presidential Message on National Financial Literacy Month, 2025 – The White House, Apr 1 2025
The foundation of American economic prosperity is a society empowered with the knowledge and tools to make informed financial decisions to achieve the American Dream. …
I welcome that message.
Teaching financial literacy must start at the top. The members of the Trump administration obviously lack the knowledge and tools to make informed financial decisions.
It is the only possible explanation for how they came up with these numbers:

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So where do they come from? The official explanation from the U.S. Trade Representative is here. Its baloney:
James Surowiecki @JamesSurowiecki – 0:22 UTC · Apr 3, 2025Just figured out where these fake tariff rates come from. They didn’t actually calculate tariff rates + non-tariff barriers, as they say they did. Instead, for every country, they just took our trade deficit with that country and divided it by the country’s exports to us.
So we have a $17.9 billion trade deficit with Indonesia. Its exports to us are $28 billion. $17.9/$28 = 64%, which Trump claims is the tariff rate Indonesia charges us. What extraordinary nonsense this is.
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Even given that it’s Trump, I cannot believe they said “We’ll just divide the trade deficit by imports and tell people that’s the tariff rate.” And then they decided to set our tariffs by just cutting that totally made-up rate in half! This is so dumb and deceptive.
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.. it’s actually worse than I thought: in calculating the tariff rate, Trump’s people only used the trade deficit in goods. So even though we run a trade surplus in services with the world, those exports don’t count as far as Trump is concerned.
The last point is a major one, for China, but especially for the EU :
EU-US trade in goods and services reached an impressive €1.6 trillion in 2023. This means that every day, €4.4 billion worth of goods and services cross the Atlantic between the EU and the US.
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The total bilateral trade in goods reached €851 billion in 2023. The EU exported €503 billion of goods to the US market, while importing €347 billion; this resulted in a goods trade surplus of €157 billion for the EU.Total bilateral trade in services between the EU and the US was worth €746 billion in 2023. The EU exported €319 billion of services to the US, while importing €427 billion from the US; this resulted in a services trade deficit of €109 billion for the EU.
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EU-US goods and services trade is balanced: the difference between EU exports to the US and US exports to the EU stood at €48 billion in 2023; the equivalent of just 3% of the total trade between the EU and the US.
Despite that Trump has decreed a 20% on all goods from the EU. The natural countermeasure from the EU will be to put a 20+% tariff on all import of U.S. services.
Trump also decreed a minimum 10% tariff on imports from every country. Products made by the penguins of the uninhabited Heard and McDonald Islands in the Antarctic will now come with a 10% surcharge.

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Arnaud Bertrand @RnaudBertrand – 4:16 AM · Apr 3, 2025To illustrate just how nonsensically these tariffs were calculated, take the example of Lesotho, one of the poorest countries in Africa with just $2.4 billion in annual GDP, which is being struck with a 50% tariff rate under the Trump plan, the highest rate among all countries on the list.
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As a matter of fact Lesotho, as a member of the Southern African Customs Union (SACU), applies the common external tariff structure established by this regional trade bloc.
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So since the tariffs charged by these 5 countries on U.S. products are exactly the same, they must all be struck with a 50% tariff rate by the U.S., right? Not at all: South Africa is getting 30%, Namibia 21%, Botswana 37% and Eswatini just 10%, the lowest rate possible among all countries.Looking at Lesotho specifically, every year the U.S. imports approximately $236 million in goods from Lesotho (primarily diamonds, textiles and apparel) while exporting only about $7 million worth of goods to Lesotho (https://wits.worldbank.org/CountryProfile/en/Country/LSO/Year/2022/TradeFlow/EXPIMP/Partner/by-country).
Why do they export so little? Again this is an extremely poor country where 56.2% of the population lives with less than $3.65 a day (https://databankfiles.worldbank.org/public/…), i.e. $1,300 a year. They simply can’t afford U.S. products, no-one is going to buy an iPhone or a Tesla on that sort of income…
The way the tariffs are ACTUALLY calculated appears to be based on a simplistic and economically senseless formula: you take the trade deficit the U.S. has with a country, divide it by that country’s exports to the U.S and declare this – falsely – “the tariff they charge on the U.S.”
And then as Trump did in his speech last night, you magnanimously declare that you’ll only “reciprocate” by charging half that “tariff” on them.
As such, for Lesotho, the calculation goes like this: ($236M – $7M)/$235M = 97%. That’s the “tariff” Lesotho is deemed to charge this U.S. and half of that, i.e. roughly 50% is what the U.S. “reciprocates” with.
It’s extremely easy to see why this makes no sense at all.
Lesotho has a comparative advantage over the U.S. as it can dig up and sell diamonds. But it lacks the purchasing power to buy U.S. goods and services. The calculations by the Trump administration ignore those basic facts.
No tariffs were by the way introduced against Belarus, Russia and North Korea. This because of sanction, the U.S. has allegedly no trade relation with them. (Other than buying enriched Uranium for its nuclear power stations?)
Did the Trump administration anticipate how this nonsense will explode in its face?
It is Smoot-Hawley writ large.
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I’m in the UK and just bought piston rings from a Greek company.
The EU charged me 30 euro tax and the UK another 30 pounds import duty.
So piston rings could have cost me 70 pounds actually cost 120 pounds roughly.
Trumps logic is right. We have been forced into globalization but ripped off in the process.
Drinks all round on me!
Cheers Oldengineer
Posted by: Oldengineer | Apr 3 2025 9:01 utc | 2
Lunacy rules.
God help us.
Posted by: g wiltek | Apr 3 2025 9:05 utc | 3
Posted by: drezzo | Apr 3 2025 9:11 utc | 4
We all have to make a choice and America (not Trump per se) has made theirs.
I despise the EU more than I do Trump. They were all happy to go along with the global slaughter and financial jiggery for decades. Now that the jackal has turned on them they have started crying.
And you seem to be going along with this crying.
Where were all these concerns when the EU was happy to go along with Biden/Obama etc?
It’s reverting back to what it always was: the Bear, the Eagle and the Dragon. Plus Israel of course in the background.
What a time to be alive if anything.
Good luck with all of these predictions below and above the line but let’s see what happens next…
Posted by: Skeletor | Apr 3 2025 9:14 utc | 5
https://t.me/Middle_East_Spectator/17039
Posted by: Mary | Apr 3 2025 9:16 utc | 6
Posted by: Squeeth | Apr 3 2025 9:29 utc | 7
So, the tariffs have bean calculated by kabuki measures, agreed. But the effects on markets, interest rates and currency seem to go into the direction that was inteded by the administration.
Posted by: calixtus | Apr 3 2025 9:30 utc | 8
Posted by: Gerry Bell | Apr 3 2025 9:33 utc | 9
I love ya.
But read the room. Some of us advocate the abolition of the US Federal Government. Trump is trying to occupy middle ground here. He says “Give me a chance, I can fix this.”
Is he correct? Can he fix America? I won’t lose anything by giving him a chance.
Posted by: MaryPeck | Apr 3 2025 9:33 utc | 10
As you note – “The numbers are bollocks.”
So one might ask – What is the latently strategic motive behind these bollocky figures? If there is one.
Posted by: Don Firineach | Apr 3 2025 9:36 utc | 11
It depends on how enslaved EU unelected leadership is. They could try to hurt China together, Eu can also increase tariffs for them. EU was extremely happy when NS was blown up, no one can say their behavior is natural. So far only China has spoken and they “vowed retaliation” if the tariffs are maintained, according to Reuters.
The EU charged me 30 euro tax and the UK another 30 pounds import duty.
@Posted by: Oldengineer | Apr 3 2025 9:01 utc | 2
Move back into EU or make your own pistons. What makes you so superior that you don’t want to pay taxes?
Posted by: rk | Apr 3 2025 9:36 utc | 12
Posted by: calixtus | Apr 3 2025 9:30 utc | 8
Interesting. A response to post #11- Ta. Dollar down; 10 yr down; market down.
Posted by: Don Firineach | Apr 3 2025 9:43 utc | 13
An industrial programmer in Germany told me that Mercedes Benz makes more money from cars made and sold in China than from cars made and sold in Europe & the West. Why do they build in China? Chinese tariffs make it necessary just as US tariffs will and why about $5 trillion has already been committed for new plant construction.
So the 67% figure for China may not be as outlandish as you portray and is probably not calculated in the slapdash way you imagine.
Features a 10-minute rapid fire interview with SecTreas Bessent; the Trump 2.0 trade and finance team is pretty impressive even if some of the rest of the Cabinet is more iffy.
Posted by: Scorpion | Apr 3 2025 9:43 utc | 14
And i mean FUCKING LOL!
Anyway, back in the real world; the West is committing a genocide, an ongoing genocide, continuing with their NATO-Nazi army in Ukraine, and putting alQaeda head-chopping terorrist as head of state in Syria.
So nobody should be giving any of these motherfuckers the slightest bit of respect in any way whatsoever.
But that’s just my opinion.
Posted by: Keith | Apr 3 2025 9:49 utc | 15
Why are so many blacks inconsiderate, noisy, and demanding?
Stereotypes. Well, this is the way it is in prison, at least. -MM
This is gonna sound racist but I don’t give a fuck because I’ve lived all over the United States so I consider myself well traveled and well cultured.
When it comes to the races of your neighbors first it’s Asians, then white people, then black people, then Mexicans.
The reason I say Asians is because they are always quiet and extremely respectful.
The best neighbors are always the ones you don’t know are there. Then it’s white people sometimes it’s hit or miss because they don’t seem to be good.
I’ve had many white neighbors I have wanted to shoot in the back of the head with a silencer for a variety of reasons, for one they tend to fall into three categories.
First one is that they have this extreme problem with wanting to call the police at any minor inconvenience always think they are the boss, also tend to be racist, second is the trailer park boy types.
The ones who smoke meth and talk about how much they hate people of color, and most of the time they end up being people you don’t really have to ever interact with which is always a blessing.
The black people are almost always consistently the loudest.
They talk the loudest, they fight a lot, they drink a lot, they will rob your ass in a heart beat if they find out what you have inside your house.
have had many black neighbors and even lived with them they are nice people from a distance but you get up close eventually you’re gonna experience a lot of misery.
The reason that Mexicans are last is because they have zero respect for how much noise they make in a public place.
They will be out on their front yard blasting music all night long and drinking alcohol. They do not care at all if you need to go to work in the morning.
Their culture is to be very loud and very annoying. They have large families and they get together every fucking weekend and make all that goddamn noise. This isn’t racism. This is an observable fact.
Some AI generated art
Just some experimental work.
Been trying different engines with the same prompt. End results tend to show a lot of nudes. Some are just overwhelmingly so. So for the purposes of modesty, I just won’t be showing those.
I have absolutely no idea why most of the men are clothed, but the women tend to be topless. I had nothing even resembling that in my prompt.



































Now it’s chocolate: prices hit records as Ghana, Ivory Coast and China cut out Western firms
Trooper
My fiancee received a call from his son saying that a cat had been crying outside their home all night.
He knew immediately after he told me about the call,we would be going over to their house.
When I saw him, my heart was broken.
He was older, skinny and covered with hundreds of fleas.
He tried to walk to us but fell over (not sure if it was from starvation or from all the fleas and bugs swarming him).
His face was also swollen because he had abscessed teeth.
This cat had been declawed and neutered, so at one point in his life he had been an indoor cat.
We did not need anymore fur babies (we have 3 dogs and 2 rescue cats already), but I refused to leave this cat behind.
I slept with him in the spare bedroom and he purred all night.
That morning we took him to our vet.
She told us he was in very bad shape and asked if we wanted to have him put to sleep.
I cried and cried and told her that he deserved a chance to live.
That’s when I named him Trooper (one who does not give up in the face of adversity) and decided to get a second opinion from another vet.
The second vet did say he was in bad shape but did not even mention putting him to sleep (thank goodness).
Trooper was placed on antibiotics and had five of his teeth pulled.
He did not have any diseases that would harm my other cats.
The vet guessed that he was about 15 years old and from the condition he was in, he had not been an indoor cat for many years.
Trooper has brought so much joy to us.
This guy just wants love, affection, food and lots of naps (lol).
We love our Trooper and hope he has many more years with us!
He will never be alone on the streets again!
Trooper;

How was China able to produce 6th generation fighters years before the US even made a prototype?
Because of the culture of sacrifice.
It’s the greatest honor to sacrifice one’s life for the country in Chinese culture.


This is the statue of “sword forger” at the gate of Northwestern Industrial University, one of China’s top institutes for industrial and military tech, where the US has reportedly repeatedly try to hack and steal information from.
Nameless, faceless, my knowledge and life for the motherland.
Compare this to what they teach American students: expression of feelings, money and fame…
And this is just tip of the iceberg. Chinese education on the glory for one to sacrifice for the family and nation is everywhere and since childhood.

Cementary of child soldiers in Yunan. 7000 child soldiers volunteered to defend China’s Southern border with British Burma from Japanese invasion during WWII. About 6000 of these kids were killed in combat. Their story is told across China and every year living kids honor them by stuffing the jars on their statues with candies.

Deng Jiaxian
Chinese theoretical and nuclear physicist. In 1958 Deng was called upon to carry out classified work, so he disappeared from his family, only to reappear in 1986 in front of his wife and children, finally discharged due to imminent death, bleeding from radiation poisoning.
Thousands of Chinese scientists have chosen this path.
Thousands more are carrying on their spirit today.
You’re suddendly realising this now because of what appears to be China’s technological lead in a field where the US takes great pride in. But this kind of rapid catch-up through sacrifice has been silently going on for decades. And it is far more efficient than for profit weapon developers.
What do you think of retired boomers who are now ultra-frugal because they are scared of going broke, even after saving for decades?
That’s me. I know this fear of going broke is ridiculous. Under current circumstances I can never go broke. Even if we got steady 10% inflation for 30 straight years I couldn’t go broke. I still have this nagging fear though.
All my accounts are still increasing year after year. I still have this fear.
Here’s what I think is really going on.
When your working it is really a strict contractural agreement. You give them time and skills and they give you money.
In retirement checks just keep showing up. My pension, Social Security. Other investment income.
Banks fail. Who knows what the government is going to do. Pension programs fail.
What’s causing my fear is that for my entire life I depended on my effort and skills to survive. Now I have to depend on the solvency, good will, and sanity of others to keep my income. I’m too old to do any income producing work.
So I’m overly frugal. Redundancy on top of redundancy trying to maintain a ‘safe’ income and continue to build up funds.
It drives the people around me crazy.
of course no !
He’s a show runner. he’s never wrong.
Posted by: W | Apr 3 2025 9:01 utc | 1