An American comparison of individual Coronavirus relief benefits from all around the world showing how the USA stacks up.

Spoiler alert; America is the most pathetic of the bunch. But you all need not worry. Businessmen in Washington DC can now deduct their three-martini lunches from federal taxes. Dictators in Africa get billions of dollars, and there are decreased taxes for the super-wealthy. Aren’t you so very proud to be an American?

While the world is reeling from the pandemic, the oligarchy toiling away in Washington DC have been using this pandemic to push for structural changes to the tax code. Many of the changes are stealth changes. Changes that have been been implemented silently over the last four decades or so. All of which is tax the poorer, working level citizenry, while providing benefits and tax relief to the wealthier people.

  • Greater taxes on the vast bulk of citizenry.
  • Less taxes on the higher social-economic citizens.

This is pretty well understood, if not at all reported.

And now, in the midst of a serious emergency; a global pandemic that America has completely bungled (politely stated, America has truly FUCKED UP on this issue), the oligarchy have been focused on making taxpayers subsidize lavish lunches for wealthy executives.

And their work has paid off in the latest Covid relief deal. Buried in the details of this modest aid plan is a provision to give executives unlimited tax deductions for their business meals for two years.

No. Not enough money to pay rent. (The last time my rent was under $600 was in the 1980’s.)

No. There isn’t any free treatments or hospital services if you get the coronavirus illness, like the FUCKING REST OF THE WORLD. You have to pay for the medical service out of your own pocket.

But this idea of giving extra benefits is pretty much the “old normal”. A normal that pre-dated the Ronald Reagan Presidency.

That’s how it worked back in the 1970s, when Presidential candidate George McGovern had this to say about it: “There’s something fundamentally wrong with the tax system,” he said, “when it allows a corporate executive to deduct his $20 martini lunch while a workingman cannot deduct the price of his bologna sandwich.”

"There’s something fundamentally wrong with the tax system when it allows a corporate executive to deduct his $20 martini lunch while a workingman cannot deduct the price of his bologna sandwich."

-George Mcgovern

President Ronald Reagan, of all people, actually agreed with McGovern. His 1986 tax-code overhaul, best remembered today for lowering overall rates, reduced the deductibility of business meals from 100 to 80 percent. In 1993, the Clinton administration pushed that deductibility rate down to 50 percent, where it has stayed ever since.

Now corporate lobbyists have managed to restore that 1970s-era perk – claiming, of course, that bigger tax write-offs for business meals would help struggling restaurants and the people they employ. It’s a real stretch. But those in Washington DC live in their own bubble of reality.

This argument that giving deductions to the activities of the upper-class would “trickle down” to the working-level folk has been proven to be a fallacy. Yet, it was used in the opposition to the Clinton-era tax reform. It was flawed then and it’s even more preposterous now.

Hey! Do you want to help the people working in the restaurants? Really? Then how about stop taxing tips.

Duh!

Which solution would best serve waiters and waitresses?

[1] Allowing the patrons to have tax deductions for their business lunches and alcoholic beverages.

[2] Stop taxing the tips that the waiters and waitresses get. 

Today, when the real problem is a public health crisis that’s keeping people at home. The justification that lowering taxes on business meals will do anything to help struggling restaurant owners and employees is just bullshit.

This is not a true relief pack­age. Relief would mir­ror the eco­nom­ic response of oth­er west­ern indus­tri­al­ized nations, where work­ing peo­ple either receive reg­u­lar month­ly pay­ments or are guar­an­teed up to 80% of their pre-Covid income. 

A real relief bill would have can­celed mort­gage and rental debt. 

Real relief would have includ­ed the expan­sion of Medicare and Med­ic­aid to cov­er all med­ical debt result­ing from the cri­sis. 

Con­gress knows that the bill won’t solve the prob­lems of a house­hold fac­ing upwards of $6,000 in unpaid rent. 

They just hope it’s enough to dis­tract from the utter lack of care and com­pas­sion that they have shown to peo­ple.

In this time of crisis, any support for corporations should encourage executives to treat their workers well, trim their own fat paychecks, and pay for their own lunches.

It’s never going to happen though. No one ever listens to me.

Why are we not surprised that the peons will get a one time check for $600, but a billionaire CEO will get to write off his $600 “business lunch” each and every day, all year long. You know, I can’t help but figure that this was thrown in for one reason, and one reason only. A giant middle finger to the working class. A quick brutal reminder that they indeed own the political class, and they are in charge.

That the stratification of America into a caste system, along the lines of India, is in process and there is nothing that Americans can do about it.

How do we know?

That’s a pretty damning statement. How do we know that is this the case?

Well, if you compare how citizens are treated around the world by their governments during this global pandemic, you can see this all quite clearly.

In nations that have governments that care for their citizens and take on the role of protectors and actuators, you can see that there are very large outlays given to the citizenry. But in nations that have either a very repressive government, or that possess one that is socially stratified (either officially or unofficially) they pretty much resemble America.

A comparison between different coronavirus stimulus packages.
A comparison between different coronavirus stimulus packages.

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The U.S. has passed a third stimulus bill Monday night and an  international comparison shows that it has been high time. According to  an analysis by think tank Bruegel, the U.S. is the country currently offering a much lower level of coronavirus  financial aid and stimulus than other developed nations. The bill's  $900 billion in aid will up the level of stimulus from previously 14  percent (of 2019 GDP) to approximately 18 percent. 

While that  will still leave the U.S. at the lower end of the comparison, the  country's share of immediate fiscal impulse is higher than elsewhere.  Since cash checks for citizens are once again included in the new bill,  the high level of immediate spending will likely remain the same after  the new bill is entered into the Bruegel calculation, which has last  been update on Nov 24, 2020.

April's checks for $1,200 to all  Americans in a certain income bracket came to US$600 billion, the  biggest single item in the entire stimulus package, which consisted of  almost $2 trillion in direct stimulus and $560 billion each in deferrals  (of payroll tax and student loans) and in liquidity/guarantee measures.

All the details

Yeah. All the details are available on the internet. Though you would be hard-pressed to find them in any American “news”. If you want to check out the details, you can find a pretty comprehensive listing at the (American based) Tax Foundation.

For the most part, except for the United States and India, most (but not all) nations follow the following guidelines…

  • Tax relief should be broad-based.  
  • Tax relief should be in keeping with good long-term policy.
  • Using refundable tax credits designed for future credits.
  • Repair distortive tax policies that could impede recovery efforts.

Compared to America, most other nations are very generous. Even if they are tiny, or are short in resources.

Consider Australia as an example…

Australia Coronavirus Tax Relief

Australia has announced federal relief proposals that total around $320 billion (AUD). State governments have also announced relief packages and in some cases deferrals of payroll tax payments (Australian Capital Territory, Queensland, Victoria, Western Australia).

The federal relief package includes direct payments to citizens. For job seekers impacted by the downturn, there will be payments of $550 every two weeks in addition to current income support payments. The government expects these payments to cost $14.1 billion. There is also a broad-based, $750 one-time payment to eligible recipients—this is expected to cost $4 billion. Individuals will also be able to temporarily access up to $10,000 from certain retirement accounts.

Through a new wage-subsidy scheme, employers will be able to receive a $1,500 payment per retained worker every two weeks. Businesses qualify for the subsidy if their revenues have fallen by 30 percent (50 percent for businesses with revenues greater than $1 billion) in the relevant time period relative to a year earlier. The subsidy will be in place for six months.

The aid packages provide relief to businesses through subsidized loans and central bank lending, and temporary relief from insolvency laws, immediate expensing (instant asset write-off), and accelerated depreciation.

Immediate expensing will now be available for assets costing less than $150,000 on a per-asset class basis. Eligibility is expanded to include businesses with annual revenues of less than $500 million (the current cap is $50 million). This measure applies until the end of June.

Accelerated depreciation will be provided temporarily for businesses with less than $500 million in revenues. In addition to current depreciation deductions, the policy allows an additional 50 percent deduction but only applies to assets purchased after March 12, 2020 and put into service by June 30, 2021.

Businesses subject to the Goods and Services Tax (GST) can apply for deferred payments if they are facing cash-flow challenges. Also, businesses that receive credits or refunds under the GST can switch from quarterly to monthly filings to speed up their refunds. Importers may also apply for the deferred GST scheme.

Two states—South Australia and Western Australia—announced land tax relief for landlords who have provided rent relief to tenants in response to the coronavirus outbreak.

Australia makes America look really, really bad.

It really does.

But you know what? It’s not just Australia. It’s just about every nation on the planet. And while there are certain differences between each and every plan, most nations are putting relief efforts for the day-to-day working-citizens of their nations FIRST, with consideration for the wealthy LAST, if at all. Not so in the United States.

A comparison between different coronavirus stimulus packages.
A comparison between different coronavirus stimulus packages.

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For I have been saying that the American “benefit package” is along the lines of what India has. It is a stratified system of benefits where the wealthiest get the most support, and the rest of the citizenry get token relief.

  • Wealthy get the greatest benefit from the “Coronavirus relief legislation”.
  • Average people get little relief, or token benefits.

So…

You don’t believe my narrative, eh? That this is a fundamental principle of stratified communities. Well…

Let’s look at India…

India Coronavirus Tax Relief

India has provided a fiscal support package of 150 billion rupees focused on the health system’s response to the outbreak. State-level fiscal support has also been announced. Tax filing has been postponed from March 31 to June 30 for income tax returns and goods and services tax returns. There is also a reduced interest rate for tax payments made by June 30, and late filing penalties are waived. Goods and services tax (GST) deadlines for March, April, and May are extended to the end of June.

India is also working on a relief package for the airline industry including deferring aviation fuel tax. Refunds for Goods and Services Tax and customs duties will be accelerated. Companies’ income tax refunds up to INR 500,000 will be accelerated. Deadline extended for FATCA and CRS returns from May 31 to June 30. The deadline for March’s provident fund contributions has been extended from April 16 to May 15.

But what does this matter?

You know, you all can slice and dice the data any which way that you want. You can make a pile of dog shit smell like roses if you want, and I am sure that there are many people in the MM audience that might think that I am too “salty” on this matter. That “America is number one and the best”, and yada, yada, yada…

My argument is rather simple.

  • Nothing shows how absolutely stratified the United States has become, than the comparisons in Coronavirus relief measures globally.
  • The only nations that share in the same type of American-style relief programs are those representative of severe social stratification. Like India.

And if you don’t want to believe it, that’s just fine.

Americans know this

You might not want to believe this, but most Americans (today) realize that the nation is a private club and they ain’t in it. There are two sets of laws, two sets, of rules, two sets of living areas, and two sets of people.

It’s just that most do not want to face the ugly truth.

So they fight back. You know, like sheep baa-ing in their pen, or monkeys howling in their cages. Modern Americans protest using meme’s. Most are far too timid to do anything more aggressive than that.

American protest memes

Here’s some “protest” meme’s regarding the grandiose coronavirus relief plan…

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Seems strange – right?

Yes. Non-Americans won’t really understand the meme’s. So let me put this in perspective…

Here is some comparative data from the Zumper National Rent Report: December 2020. And keep in mind the following;

  • Most American live in 2 to 4 bedroom homes.
  • Those that do not rent, have a mortgage that has typically much larger monthly payments.

Combined means that the data is damning.

Why?

Because Congress has this information, and already knows this.

Knows what?

This…

Typical monthly rent for Americans all over the United States.
Typical monthly rent for Americans all over the United States.

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Which pretty much means that, for a nation where…

  • Most citizens live paycheck to paycheck.
  • Most citizens have no savings.

Will result in most citizens at a point of eviction from their homes, with little compensation, no savings, no cushion, and ZERO support from the American government.

This is setting up a “perfect storm”.

A perfect storm

It appears that the long-awaited “fork in the road” has arrived. Americans can either accept the role as destitute indentured-serfs or they can revolt against an uncaring, inefficient, and criminal government.

And maybe it is already happening….

A perfect storm is brewing.

You have [1] a “clueless”, psychopathic American leadership, supported by [2] selfish minions that have [3] become blatant in their treatment of the 99% of the rest of America. You have [4] an oligarchy that is trying to create strife and discord for the sole purpose in obtaining personal advantage. [5] You have a completely disillusioned serf-citizenry that is [6] waking up to their reality, while [7] the government controls all the media that is fed to them, and [8] a government desirous of sparking a violent “hot” war in a “distant land” to unify the [9] balkanized Americans for a common goal.

And no one wants to do the “hard stuff”.

“Hard stuff” ?

Yeah. The “hard stuff” as described in this lengthy article (shown below) and pointed out at the end…

Across  the political spectrum, there is widespread agreement that America must  get serious about the threat posed by China. As the Trump  administration comes to a close, the State Department has just released a  document called ‘The Elements of the China Challenge’.  A distillation of conventional wisdom among national security experts  and government officials, it argues that the U.S. needs a concerted  effort to push back against Beijing. On its first page, the document  tells us that “the Chinese Communist Party (CCP) has triggered a new era  of great-power competition.” If there was a major intellectual thread  running through Trump’s foreign policy, or at least that of the people  he appointed, it was that confronting China was the national security  issue of our time. America during the Trump era was single-minded in its  focus on turning up the pressure on Beijing, including unprecedented  support for Taiwan, sending ships more often through the South China  Sea, and attempting to stop the spread of the telecom giant Huawei.

 The  idea of the China threat will not end with the Trump administration.  Michèle Flournoy, once thought to be the frontrunner to become Biden’s  Secretary of Defense, argued in Foreign Affairs that the U.S. has not been steadfast enough  in its military commitments in East Asia. Sometimes, great power  competition is presented as an imperative of history; in the formulation  of Graham Allison, a former Pentagon official and the current professor  at Harvard’s Kennedy School of Government, the two powers are involved  in a “Thucydides Trap.” Looking at the last 500 years of world history,  Allison believes that when the ambitions of a rising power conflict with  those of an established power, war becomes likely.

 But  what are we afraid of China actually doing? Reading foreign policy  analysis can often be frustrating to those who believe arguments should  proceed in a straight line, with clearly defined terms, and logical  connections between ends being sought and the means being recommended.  Once can read op-eds and government reports on “great power competition”  or the “China challenge” and never understand clearly what the U.S. and  China are actually competing for. ‘The Elements of the China Challenge’  from the State Department adopts a strategy of throwing everything at  the wall and seeing what sticks, accusing China of everything from being too successful in trade, to trying to dominate the world, and being racist against African migrants.
 
This  kind of ambiguity about what a conflict is actually about has not  existed throughout most of history. The two world wars nominally  centered around rivalries between Germany and its neighbors over  specific territories one could locate on a map, such as Alsace-Lorraine.  The Cold War was a struggle between the capitalist and communist  systems. But why, exactly, are the U.S. and China rivals? Beneath the  comparisons to any number of classical or modern conflicts, the reality  is very different. China is not a threat in the way traditionally  understood. There is nothing vital to American security or prosperity  that China threatens. While the U.S. will be less powerful in the coming  decades in relative global terms, that is inevitable with the rise of  the developing world more generally, a trend Washington has encouraged.
 
China’s  true menace is neither military nor geopolitical, but rather  ideological. Its continuing success, even if it in no way harms the  prosperity or security of most Americans, poses a major threat to the  American political establishment, how it justifies its own power, and  its understanding of the U.S. role in the world.
 
What is the China Threat?
 
In  the last three decades, China has experienced a rate of economic growth  unprecedented in modern history. Between 1990 and 2019, GDP per capita increased 32 times. In terms of total GDP, China may become wealthier than the U.S. in the next two decades—and by some measures, already is. For the sake of comparison, in 1980 the Soviet Union had a GDP that was about 40% that of the U.S., with the trendlines actually favoring the West. Recently, when the economist Branko Milanovic suggested  that the Nobel Prize in his field should go to scholars who study the  most important questions out there, he pointed to Chinese growth as an  example, calling it “40 years of the most extraordinary increase in  income for the largest number of people ever.”
 
This  would be frightening if the U.S. and China coveted territory from one  another. Azerbaijan’s recent military victory over Armenia in the  conflict over Nagorno-Karabakh can be attributed to the former growing  economically, and therefore militarily, stronger than the latter over the last two decades.  Yet the two modern superpowers are on opposite sides of the world and  have no similar dispute between them. It is true that the U.S. seeks to  preserve the territorial integrity of allies and partners, such as  Taiwan and Japan, that may be threatened by Beijing. The incoming Biden  administration will likely have a policy of willingness to defend the  Senkaku Islands, an uninhabited five rocks and three reefs that the U.S.  considers part of Japan. But why America should risk nuclear war over  this issue is rarely explained. To the extent such objections are  addressed, they are buried under appeals to morality that forgo any kind  of cost-benefit analysis, and buzzwords such as preserving an undefined  sense of American credibility or the broad goal of reinforcing  deterrence.
 
Another  idea, popular among pundits and the general public, is that Chinese  growth is necessarily bad for the U.S. But in reality, Chinese growth  has so far directly benefited U.S. consumers: it is undisputed among economists  that trade with China made America better off by lowering the price of  goods. Despite the temptation to political amnesia, the fact is that  U.S. policy privileged these economic gains for many years, and its  relationship with China was explicitly informed by these political  decisions.
 
While  this has undermined U.S. economic capacity in important ways, the cause  wasn’t cheating, trickery, or even growth on the part of China.  Instead, the cause was the success of American policy priorities. If  there is a problem, it is most immediately that those priorities were  misguided. The U.S. has the right to conduct trade on its own terms. It  can choose what kind of strategy it wants in trade negotiations, and is  free to deal with the downsides of neglecting domestic industry and  increased competition for jobs through whatever means it considers  appropriate. To see China as a civilizational enemy over such issues,  however, is bizarre.
 
The  same is true regarding IP theft. While the practice has been estimated  to cost the U.S. hundreds of billions of dollars a year, it is  nonetheless normal for developing economies,  with South Korea and Taiwan having had similarly bad records as their  economies began to grow. No other state was considered a fundamental  threat to the U.S. over the issue, with a mix of external pressure and  internal incentives leading them to ultimately develop more rigorous  patent laws and enforcement. Many corporations, the parties most  directly affected, treat the problem as the price of doing business.
 
Perhaps,  then, the threat is that China seeks to remake the world in its own  image? This is a popular trope among the national security  establishment. H.R. McMaster, perhaps the quintessential representative  of this class, says China  is “leading the development of new rules and a new international order  that would make the world less free and less safe.” When one scratches  the surface of these arguments, it is clear that most of the indictment  against China involves things that every country does, but only looks  frightening if you completely ignore American behavior. Chinese loans to  poor countries are said to trap them in debt, but the evidence doesn’t bear this out.  The same criticisms don’t often extend to the sorts of loan programs  offered by the International Monetary Fund, even though these have often  been as controversial as, and much more comprehensive than, any Chinese financial aid.
 
But  despite the growth of this position among the American establishment,  still others accuse it of strategically respecting the sovereignty of  other states. In March, Daniel Tobin of the Center for Strategic and  International Studies testified to Congress  that China continues to promote the normative principles of “mutual  respect for each other’s territorial integrity and sovereignty, mutual  nonaggression, mutual noninterference in each other’s internal affairs,  equality and cooperation for mutual benefit, and peaceful coexistence.”  Ted Piccione of the Brookings Institution writes of China under Xi putting forth “orthodox interpretations of national sovereignty and noninterference in internal affairs…”
 
While  China is not blameless, one could reasonably make the argument that,  from an international perspective, it has had easily the most peaceful  rise to great power status of any nation of the last several hundred  years. While China has carried out the re-annexation of Tibet, blockaded  Taiwan diplomatically, and launched internal colonization of  territories like Xinjiang, such actions always occur under the  ideologically important claim that they are internal to China. The U.S.,  conversely, undertook external colonial ventures during its rise and  still regularly sanctions unquestionably sovereign nations. China’s  territorial claims are naturally controversial internationally, but are  modest compared to those sought by other powers—not least the U.S.  itself, which early in its history declared the entire Western  Hemisphere as off limits to the nations of Europe. Its interventionist  policies since then have led to the overthrow of governments, the killing of leaders, and the economic sanctioning of entire nations.
 
Perhaps,  as the McMasters of the world claim, this is all because Beijing is  biding its time in hopes of world domination. Alternatively, China may  be an inwardly focused civilization that, while it may have disputes  with its neighbors, is not on a mission to fundamentally remake the  world. While it would naturally prefer rules that favor it and resists  any principles that would legitimize regime change supported from  abroad, Beijing does not seek to fundamentally replace the U.N. or  rewrite international law. Its strategy has mostly sought stability and  growth within the rules of the system developed by Western democracies  in the aftermath of the Second World War. While its current position of  strength is recent, it has not yet broken from this precedent.
 
This  interpretation is most consistent with past behavior and, given the  costs of American militarism abroad, with common sense about how a  rational actor should be expected to act. It is also consistent with the  arguments of the most honest kind of “China hawk,” who argues that the  real problem with Beijing is not that it wants to dominate the world,  but that it might stop the U.S. from doing so in a unipolar manner.
 
The Threat to the National Security Elite
 
Given  the incoherence of these arguments, one must look below the surface to  see what motivates political hysteria towards China. To understand the  motivations of analysts, think tank fellows, and generals, one must  comprehend how they see themselves and the American role in the world.  For decades, the ideology of the American government in its dealings  abroad has been based on the necessity of creating a liberal democratic  world—a necessity which, as the Soviet model proved an ineffective  threat and the Cold War ultimately ended, became seen as ever more  natural. The assumptions supporting this view have, in various ways,  driven American leaders since the post-WWII era.
 
The  collapse of the Berlin Wall increased this confidence. While the  possibility of nuclear war had to be managed, and it was assumed that  communists might hold on to their captive populations indefinitely, the  spread had been contained. During the entire Cold War, the trend was  towards more democratic governance and the opening of markets.
 
The  1990s saw the U.S. engage in what can be described as mop-up operations  against the few holdouts against the trend towards democratic  capitalism like Saddam Hussein and Slobodan Milosevic. Academics even  before Francis Fukuyama saw democratization as a natural consequence of  people demanding more of a voice in their governments, as incomes rose,  and as they became more educated. Countries like Chile, South Korea, and  Taiwan seemed to validate this view.
 
None  of this meant that the U.S. was to stand back and let history unfold.  An expansive military presence abroad was necessary for all these  projects, and even after the Cold War to address WMD proliferation and  protect civilians abroad from human rights violations, and to stop  Islamic terrorism after 9/11. The assumption was that, while the move  towards democratic capitalism was natural and maybe even inevitable, it  could be delayed by communists, terrorists, or Baathists if the U.S. did  not lead.
 
The  result was a paradox. The greater the inevitability of this grand  historical arc, the more urgently it had to be backed up by force, and  the more unreasonable and deviant all resistance seemed. Even the  language of a “clash of civilizations” as the War on Terror commenced  did not radically depart from the larger story. This justified a large  military establishment with costs that dwarfed those of every other  potential rival combined. American global leadership was pushing on an  open door.
 
China Versus Western Political Science
 
China  is something completely new. The Soviet Union had military power and  appealed to Western intellectuals, but was clearly an economic basket  case that could not deliver on its promise of rising standards of  living. Islamic terrorists could kill Westerners and destabilize  countries, but had little overall effect on American security, and did  not threaten either U.S. hegemony or its justifications. Modern day  Russia can seek to have an influence on our culture and politics, but  nobody looks to it as a model, and it nominally accepts the legitimacy  of competitive elections.
 
China,  however, rejects liberal democracy—the idea that leaders should be  chosen on a one-person, one-vote basis—even as an ideal or ultimate  destination. As Daniel Bell explains in The China Model: Political  Meritocracy and the Limits of Democracy, Chinese leaders have  implemented a system in which government officials are selected and  promoted based on examinations, performance reviews, and the meeting of  objective criteria at lower levels. Its political qualification is not  electoral support, but party membership and loyalty. This system is not  justified on the grounds simply that the Chinese people or their  institutions are “not ready for democracy,” a line sometimes taken  even by Middle Eastern dictators like Bashar al-Assad. Critiques of  democracy certainly are not foreign to the West; Plato is possibly the  most famous anti-democratic thinker in history, and today modern  skeptics use the language of economics when they talk about concepts  like the influence of interest groups and the “rational irrationality”  of voters. Yet opposition to the principle of democracy as such is  unthinkable for an American leader, and even for most prominent  intellectuals.
 
What  went wrong with political science models that generalized from a  moderately large number of cases in which economic growth led to  democratization? To see how they erred, one could imagine a social  scientist at the end of the first millennium arguing that the whole  globe would become Christian because princes across Europe had all  adopted that religion. If statistical models existed then, one could  have done a regression and “proved” this hypothesis. The most common  statistical models used today rely on the assumed independence of  observations. The logic of regression analysis and hypothesis testing as  applied to political development says that if we see the same patterns  across time and space, then we may be able to infer a causal chain of  events.
 
But  the spread of economic and social systems operates in the realm of path  dependence and network dynamics. Under this view, the move towards  democratization after the Second World War depended on the power and  missionary zeal of the U.S. more than the laws of history. If American  power declines, its focus on world affairs wanes, or democracy loses its  luster due its perceived shortcomings, the connection between economic  growth and democratization can break down.
 
China  is not simply passing the U.S. in overall GDP. Other measures one might  use to measure the health of society also indicate that leaders in  Beijing have been doing a better job than those in Washington in recent  years. Are dictatorships more conflict prone at home? China’s murder  rate is a fraction of that of the U.S., and the country has practically  none of the rioting and political violence Americans have gotten used  to. Are dictatorships more likely to menace countries abroad? China has  not been to war since 1979, while the U.S. has been at war almost every year since that date. Are dictatorships less innovative? In 2020, China passed the U.S. in publications in the natural sciences, and its children score higher than American students on IQ tests and international standardized exams. While in 2008, the U.S. recorded over 16 times as many international patents as China, already by 2018 the gap had shrunk to 2.4 times as many, with trend lines indicating that China could surpass the U.S. before long.
 
With  the American post-war liberal consensus having staked much of its  legitimacy on providing better results, China’s development is an  ideological threat regardless of how benevolent its rulers might  theoretically be. American elites can tolerate a more successful system  on a smaller scale. Lee Kuan Yew, the founder and long-time leader of  Singapore, was explicitly anti-democratic, and horrified American elites  with stances like his belief in eugenics.  Yet his nation’s population has never even approached that of the  largest American cities, and Lee was happy to geopolitically align his  country with the U.S.
 
China’s  ideology, and the success it is achieving, is ultimately threatening  because of its size. Of course, as a country moves from Third World  status to the most powerful nation in the world, it should be expected  to become more geopolitically confident. Recently, China has begun asserting its will  in a century-old border dispute with Bhutan, a country of 800,000  people, after 24 rounds of previous talks. Such results in this dispute  and others like it are inevitable.
 
So,  what question should American leaders be asking? It is not whether  China will become more powerful, which it certainly will, or whether it  will democratize, which is out of American hands and not relevant to its  security anyway. Rather, it’s whether China has ambitions beyond what  the U.S. can live with. All else equal, a few rocks in the South China  Sea are not worth the possibility of war, or even worth forgoing the  benefits of trade and potential collaboration on issues of global  importance like climate change and containing pandemics.
 
In  that case, what about Chinese financing? What about IP theft? What  about Taiwan? Rather than invoking concerns about ethereal leadership or  precedent, it would behoove American leaders well to explicitly set out  their red lines, and tie their arguments for action to why crossing  them threatens America’s fundamental interests. This also requires  honesty about why certain actions are provoking concern. If the real  worry is ideological, it should not be cloaked in rumors about predatory  debt.
 
The  answer to the China question would therefore be easier if American  leaders were simply looking after the economic or security interests of  the nation, or even the concrete concerns of a formalized alliance.  Unfortunately, they also have financial, bureaucratic, and ideological  reasons for being opposed to China’s rise. If universal democratization  is not the ultimate endpoint of history—or even an imperative for  development, peace, and prosperity—how can the American role in the  world be justified? What will it say about the American system if the  U.S. is no longer the wealthiest and most powerful nation in the world,  having been surpassed by a country that became the dominant power in  East Asia without even paying lip service to democratic ideals?
 
Ultimately,  Americans themselves might begin asking themselves difficult questions  about how well they have been served by their own system, including the  sacrifices in blood and treasure they are regularly asked to make  abroad.
 
How Will the U.S. Manage Its Decline?
 
The  rise of China is based on long-term economic trends. Washington can no  more stop or contain it than European powers in the mid-twentieth  century could hope to hold on to their colonies in the midst of  population growth in Asia and Africa, the rise of mass media, and their  national declines relative to the U.S. and the Soviet Union. American  leaders debate questions such as whether to reduce trade with China,  call Beijing out on human rights violations, ban apps like TikTok, or  undertake more naval missions through the South China Sea. Even if the  hawks get their way on each of these issues—like they did under Trump  and are unlikely to under Biden—none of these policies are going to  significantly impede the rise of China.
 
At  present, Beijing has demonstrated no desire for territory far from its  borders; nor does it seem to want veto power over what governments do in  distant lands, as the U.S. has exercised over large swaths of the  world. Chinese leaders have always reasonably acted as if such  entanglements are not worth the cost. While we cannot predict what  future opportunists may attempt, it would be a mistake to craft our  approach to the Chinese relationship as if this was not the case.
 
Understanding  this, perhaps the most important question becomes the extent to which  the U.S. is to play a game of chicken in the South China Sea. This is  the real Thucydides Trap, though the concept only applies if both sides  consider hegemony in an area important. China has built an impressive  collection of fortified artificial islands in the South China Sea that  will be useful in any dispute in Taiwan. Nonetheless, an all-out  invasion is unlikely. Rather, Chinese economic strength should be enough  to make most countries of the region take its side in any disputes and  isolate Taiwan. At that point, various scenarios are imaginable, from an  indefinite continuation of the status quo, to overwhelming economic  pressure and attempts to force the island nation into submission, to a  blockade or invasion. Only the very last of these risks war with the  U.S. Assuming we avoid such a scenario, American leaders can be expected  to easily forget about Taiwanese independence and democracy and move  on.
 
Recent  events in Hong Kong and Belarus demonstrate the limited nature of U.S.  commitments to faraway nations most Americans know little about. Over  the last two years, both of these places have seen pro-democracy  protests that were given rhetorical support by the United States. In  both situations, authoritarian governments were able to reassert  authority and hold on to power. In the aftermath, the U.S. puts  sanctions on the guilty parties, but the issue recedes from the  headlines, and things go back to normal. Just as America lost interest  in Tibet, it will eventually lose interest in Hong Kong and the Uighurs.
 
This  quiet decline in the Asia-Pacific influence is the most likely  scenario, even if the same military commitments remain. The U.S. can  keep troops in Japan and South Korea as long as those two countries  agree to host them, especially since China is unlikely to force this  issue in the near future. Despite relying on the U.S. for defense, South  Korea already aligns with China over the U.S. on a host of important  geopolitical issues, from welcoming Huawei as a 5G provider to accepting  the view of Hong Kong as an internal manner. Should political winds  change direction in Japan, U.S. bases will not do anything to prevent  better relations between Tokyo and Beijing. Just last month, China and  Japan joined 13 other nations to sign the Regional Comprehensive  Economic Partnership, a free trade agreement that will expand trade and  cooperation throughout the Asia-Pacific. Nothing about the American  military presence prevents the region from resisting any attempts to  isolate China.
 
Ultimately,  the danger for American elites is not that the U.S. may become less  able to accomplish geopolitical objectives. Rather, it is that more  Americans might begin to question the logic of U.S. global hegemony.  Perhaps not every state is destined to become a liberal democracy, and  nations with very different political systems can coexist peacefully, as  many countries in East Asia do. Maybe the U.S. will not always be at  the frontier of military and economic power, and the country that  overtakes it may have completely different attitudes about the nature of  the relationship between government and its citizens.
 
While  most Americans will never experience a ride on a Chinese bullet train  and remain oblivious in differences in areas like infrastructure  quality, major accomplishments in highly visible frontiers like space  travel or cancer treatment could drive home the extent to which the U.S.  has fallen behind. Under such conditions, the best case scenario for  most Americans would be a nightmare for many national security and  bureaucratic elites: for the U.S. to give up on policing the world and  instead turn inward and focus on finding out where exactly our  institutions have gone wrong.
 
-Richard Hanania is the President of the  Center for the Study of Partisanship and Ideology  and a research fellow at Defense Priorities. He holds a PhD in  political science from UCLA and JD from the University of Chicago. He  tweets @RichardHanania. 

Yes.

The article is comparative. And that comparison is damning.

America has long, long past the time needed to restructure it’s failing and corrupt institutions. It has long past the time when the “policing elements” of “democracy” (such as the media) have become corrupted to the point where they are no longer functional. It has long past the time when the American Military Empire needs to be scaled back…

…firstly wind back 20 years to just an oligarchy…

…then wind back 40 years to just a “federal democracy”…

…then wind back 100 years to a “democracy”

…then wind back 100 years again to go back to a republic…

…then on to individual fully autonomous States…

…but you know…

…that isn’t going to happen. At least not peacefully. Abrupt change is required at this late stage “in the game”. The cancer has metastasized. It’s eating the host and it is on life-support.

Someone needs to pull the plug…

…press the reset button…

…perform a CTRL – ALT – DEL…

…and reboot.

You all know this, right? You know that the roller coaster has no brakes, and that it is careening out of control on a shoddy track, rotten by termites, broken in places, and run by drunk madmen.

Keep calm and press ctrl-alt-del.
Keep calm and press ctrl-alt-del.

Conclusion

I would be very surprised if any of this is new to you the reader.

What I am just doing here is something that you will not see in the American news. NO alternative media, mainstream media or anyone else is comparing the American ‘stimulus” packages with the rest of the world. Only here. And the comparisons are damning.

Just horrific.

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The story about how I got married to my Chinese wife.

This is the story about how I got married to my wife in China. As such, this is my dedication to all the others who have to plow through obstacles to be together. Here is what to look out for, and how getting married in China works.

“Sometimes this culture of controlling their kids and who they marry then gets passed down from generation to generation..."

- The moms of 'Crazy Rich Asians' discuss the diversity of motherhood

I know all the details are too tedious and boring for casual reading. So I am not going to go into the details.

However, there is a music video 听见下雨的声音 that describes what it was like for me and wife to get married. I want to dedicate this post using this video as the narrative.

Pause. Watch the three minute video. Return.

This is the way it happened. I tell you the truth.

Please kindly note that this post has multiple embedded videos. It is important to view them. If they fail to load, all you need to do is to reload your browser.

Let it be well understood that getting married to the love of my life was was not easy. It wasn’t easy. There were all sorts of hurdles in the way, and yes per Chinese tradition she was to be married off to another boy. This guy was richer, better, more attractive than me.

It was an arrangement made many many years ago. It was made when I was still in elementary school, and while my love knew about it, she somehow felt that she could get around it.

No. She could not.

He was better than me in every measurable way. But somehow we overcame all those obstacles. There is a music video that aptly describes what it was like for us to get together, and I refer to it throughout this post.

Have I been treated unfairly by a boyfriend’s mother because I was not their kind of Asian? 

Absolutely! (Two now-ex boyfriends, in fact.)

I was never going to be good enough because I wasn’t the right shade of Asian. I didn’t come from the same background, go to an Ivy League school, or have the right last name.

-ThoughtCo

Yes, my background is certainly more capable than the humble clerk in the music video. Yet, this is a timeless story that others, just like me and my wife, have gone through. This is my dedication to all the others who have to plow through obstacles to be together.

This is my dedication to all the others (maybe others like you, perhaps) who have to plow through obstacles to be together. This is my dedication for all you out there who are in love and are fighting to be together. This is my dedication for you, and for your love.

Love In the 7-11
This boy and this girl loves each other. He is working at a 7-11 as a clerk. He doesn’t make enough money, but he is a hard worker. He is kind, honest, and loyal. She doesn’t love him for his money. She doesn’t love him for his family, the car he drives, or the school he went to. She loves him for who he is.

It’s true.

In fact, if you want to get married to a Chinese guy or girl in China, you WILL need their parents approval. This is codified in law, as well as the documents that all families have. If you get married, your name will go into a household register, and who controls that document? Well… the parents do.

Unless you have their approval, you will not be able to get married in China.

This is because in China, you will need more than love. You will need HEART.

This means that love will not be enough. You will need to make your relationship work. Not only functionally, but you will need to obtain the approval of parents. Many, of whom will have natural biases against you.

These biases are many, and depending on where your love lives, it can include anything from your familial background to your earning potential.

Father chases the boy away.
Chinese parents will come with automatic biases that they will judge you by. This will include your earning potential. This will include your intelligence. This will include your family’s social standing, and this will include your ability to be a good provider. Chinese families are traditional.

So yes. You will need to love, and you will need to work. You will need to prove yourself, but also you will need to fight for your love.

More so than Westerners, many Chinese view dating as a pragmatic affair. It’s not always about finding love so much as it is about finding a potential marriage partner who fits with one’s own ideals. For example, although many men get married without a house and a car, Chinese women will often say that they’re looking for these things because that’s the sort of person who probably has a stable career and will be able to provide for her and their future children in the long-term. It’s not always about love. As one contestant on China’s most popular dating show put it, "I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle."

-ThoughtCo

You must, of course, fight. I don’t mean put on some boxing gloves. I mean push yourself, and push yourself to your limits. You need to make the money to prove that you are worthy. You need to be a little better than everyone else. You need to show to your mate that you are worthy of them.

Working boy.
He is a worker. He doesn’t laze around. He works, and earns money. He works at three or four jobs and saves up all his money. (7-11 clerk, deliver food, deliver newspapers, and janitor)

In this video, a poor boy is working all the time so that he can be married to the girl of his dreams. This girl is the one. You know what I am talking about?

The ONE; that one very special person that you want to share your life with.

Ah, but.. But he doesn’t have a college degree. He is of limited means, so he works at what he can do. He works multiple jobs and saves and saves his pennies. He works and works. He does his best, and yes it is dirty, and demeaning work.

Father has a husband lined up.
But in China, love is not enough to form the basis of a family. You need money, connections and potential. Her father already has picked up a nice promising man for her to marry. Here in the video, he is “interviewing” him as a potential husband for his daughter. This is a often referred to as a “date” in China.

Well, the father does not like him. Instead, he chooses a rich boy, one who is upwardly mobile for his daughter. And she, as a good Chinese daughter, listens to her father.

She obeys her father.

This is a very sweet version of the song from the video, sung by Kiniyo. I place it here so that you, the reader, can listen to it now.


I think Kiniyo does a nice job singing about this very, very common situation that Chinese boys and girls must endure.

This is not fifty years ago. This is today. This is contemporary China, and yes this practice is still very common. It is the most common way for a person to get married in China. However, today (in most of China) they tend to be a little softer about who the daughter is to marry.

As such, they give them a year or two to find a mate. If they don’t find a boy, then the parents will find one for them.

Every parent is different, of course, but in general Chinese parents expect to be more involved in their children’s relationships. It’s not uncommon for parents and grandparents to set their children up on blind dates with suitable matches they’ve found.

If their child’s significant other doesn’t meet with the parents’ approval, continuing the relationship will be very difficult. That’s why if you’re dating someone who is Chinese, it’s very important you make a good first impression with the parents!
-ThoughtCo

In richer families, like my wife’s, they are often very strict and particular on who will marry. They are absolute in this regards, most especially if you come from certain regions in China. Like some of the richer sections of Hong Kong, Shanghai, Taiwan, or Beijing. Or in certain provinces or cultural enclaves like Wenzhou.

And, in certain areas (regions) of China, dating a 外国人 (wài guó rén) – a non-Chinese foreigner, is absolutely out of the question.

The father will decide who will marry his daughter.

Father approval.
The father has picked up a socially and financially mobile husband out for her and he tells her that she WILL marry this boy. This is the Chinese way and it is still very common. And yes. It happened to me.

But you know, love is the glue that builds a family. Not a document or diploma. It’s not how good you look or how well connected you are. It is the love that binds the family together and enables the family to persist through hardship.

Love is what you need to make things last decade after decade. Love has a purpose and there is a reason why it exists. When you love someone you are connected to them, and you can “feel” them and what is going on with them.

Yes. You can “feel” them, and this is a real connection.

The girl feels the boy.
When you love someone you are “attuned” to that person. You can “feel” them and are aware of them to a certain extent. This awareness varies from person to person, but it does exist.

In China, especially if you come from a wealthy or prominent family, you WILL marry who they tell you to marry. This is the way that it is done, and I can tell you that I encountered this situation personally.

This is what it is like. You need to have parental approval to get married in China.

If you have any questions or confusion about this, then perhaps you should get your head out of the sand and watch the movie “Rich Crazy Asians“. That movie had a number of scenes that really reflected how parents influence the people their children marry.

Mother from Rich Crazy Asians.
The Chinese parents exert a tremendous amount of influence on their children. They expect their children to excel in life, and they will make sure and enforce who they will marry.
Crazy Rich Asians is a 2013 novel by Kevin Kwan. Kwan stated that his intention in writing the novel was to "introduce a contemporary Asia to a North American audience". He claimed the novel was loosely based on his own childhood in Singapore. The novel became a bestseller and was followed by two sequels, China Rich Girlfriend in 2015 and Rich People Problems in 2017. A film adaptation of the novel was released on August 15, 2018.  
-Crazy Rich Asians - Wikipedia

This influence can be an enormous burden and hardship on the child. This is especially true when they love someone, and their parents forbid them to be together. While it is true that many people can get married in China and avoid family approval, this is not true for everyone.

There are still many families that take marriage and future family composition quite seriously.

Midway through Crazy Rich Asians, Michelle Yeoh–who plays the disapproving mother of Constance Wu’s love interest and would-be husband–tells Wu’s character, “You will never be enough.”  -Fastcompany

In the MV by Jay Chou titled 听见下雨的声音, this is quite realistically portrayed.

The pain of being a rich Chinese daughter.
This fact of life, and Chinese truth, can be very difficult. In the case with most Chinese daughters who love another boy, they find that they must marry someone that they do not love. Meanwhile they are forbidden to be with the one who they love.

In the video, the boy saves up all of his money.

That’s what a guy does. he saves up everything and than gives it all to the girl of his dreams. This might sound so strange as it doesn’t fit the progressive liberal reality of what a family is. It is the way traditional families are structures, and in traditional families, the man works as hard as he can and give all of it to his wife.

Not some of it. Not most of it.

All of it.

ALL OF IT.

Money saved up.
The boy works hard and gives everything to his girl. In China, a family man gives 100% of what he earns straight to his wife. Not “most” of his money. Not 99.5% of his money. He gives ALL OF HIS MONEY, as his wife and his family is everything to him. That is what a traditional life, and a traditional family is all about.

That is how the dowry came into being. It was a way to show that the boy loves the girl well enough to give everything to her.

That is what a dowry is. But in today’s world, it isn’t enough.

Often in China, the mechanism for getting married was set in place many, many years earlier. The love of your life; your dream girl… THE ONE, might be promised to someone else. And the entire community might know of it. And there might not be anything that you can do about it.

She will be obligated to marry who ever her parents tell her to, or else the entire face of the family will be in jeopardy.

Just like in the English expression “saving face,” the “face” we’re talking about here isn’t a literal face. Rather, it’s a metaphor for a person’s reputation amongst their peers. So, for example, if you hear it said that someone “has face,” that means that they have a good reputation. Someone who doesn’t have face is someone who has a very bad reputation. 
-Face Culture in China

But life is not that simple.

Love isn’t enough. Money isn’t enough.

You need the blessings of the parents. Without those blessings, you will be absolutely unsuccessful in getting married or having a family register in China. Without a family register, you cannot have children.

Chinese Household Register.
This is what a Household Register looks like in China. It is a book. It is kept by your parents, and when you get married, your name and your spouse is added to that register, and your parents keep the book. If they do not approve of your love, you can never get your partner added to the book.

You need the blessings of the parents.

Family history
The household register can trace your family’s genealogy back many, many generations.

But, there are often other forces and other situations that will define what happens in your life. There are complex relationships, long held debts, and familial responsibilities that you can be caught up in and not even know about.

The parents will have a duty to make sure that you obey the familial obligations.

An arranged marriage.
The girl is going to her pre-arranged marriage. This is common in China, and this is what happened to us in my life. You might think that this is all a nice made up tale. It isn’t. It is real life in China. It makes us better understand the importance of love and relationships.

But you know, sometimes being wealthy, being kind, saving money, working hard… isn’t enough. The things running against you two being together are too large. The obstacles are too formidable.

The ultimate goal of most relationships in China is marriage. Young Chinese adults are often under a lot of pressure from the elders in their family to find a good husband or wife and get married relatively early.

This pressure is particularly acute for women, who can be called “left-over women” if they pass the age of 26 or 27 without finding a husband. Men can find themselves similarly left-over if they wait too long to get married.

This is a big part of why dating is often taken so seriously. Chinese young people often feel like they don’t have the time to “play the field” that their Western counterparts are afforded by society.
-ThoughtCo
It can be difficult.
Sometimes everything is just impossible to overcome. You cannot do it on your own. All you can do is your best, and often doing it alone won’t be enough.

When that happens, you just cannot give up. You can never give up. You must keep on going and never give up.

I know that it will seem impossible. It will seem difficult, and you will look at what you have; your resources, and see that are are sorely lacking. You will see the world trying, and doing so successfully, to take away what you (in your heart) yearns for.

It doesn’t matter.

You must never give up.

Never. Give. Up.

I am dead-on serious about this. If what you love is so darn important to you then you must fight for it. You must work and strive for a strong life with the one; yes, (here we go again) that ONE person in your life that is THE ONE.

Never. Never ever give up.

Build up your life

You must fight for the things that are important to you.

Seriously. You MUST fight for the things worth having.

You must fight for the important things. And no, often you will not be ready. You won’t have enough money. You won’t have the right job. You won’t have the family blessings. You won’t have what it takes. But…

But… you MUST fight for the things that are important to you.

You fight for what you love.
Well, maybe all your plans fall flat on their face. Maybe everything collapses. Maybe it all goes to deep shit. It doesn’t matter. You keep on fighting for what you love.

One of the great things about love is the strength of it when it is shared. Yes things can be impossible, and the obstacles can be far too great. However, when both of you are working TOGETHER, there is nothing that can come between your love.

As long as both of you…

Both of you share the same kind of love…

Is it too late.
It is very easy to follow the parents, peers, and society. But if the love is strong enough, and the heart is fierce enough, you can make decisions before it is too late.

There is nothing that should come between your love for each other. That is why love is so important in a family. It is the glue that outlasts money, that outlasts, beauty and that outlasts family commitments.

But, love will melt away unless you desire it with all of your heart. You will need to make some difficult choices in your life, and there will be others who will not understand. You will need to make them, and it might not be all that easy.

Make the decision.
One of the most difficult things that a person might have to do is to disobey their parents and follow their heart. Doing so, especially in Asian cultures, will come at a cost, and there will be a price. But, only you know if it will be worth it. You have to decide. It is a red-pill, a black and white moment.

Things can become uncomfortable. But you know…

The things that are important must be fought for.

In China, and in most of Asia, you might need to disobey your parents. In my case, we ended up getting married in Hong Kong because her parents did not approve of her marriage to an American. I understand that in certain circles in Singapore, or Indonesia it is even stricter with religious and social strata considerations.

And don’t even get me started with India…

Follow your heart.
The better things in life are the harder to get. Even though your family might want the best for you, only you know in your heart what is important to you. You do need to follow your heart.

Always follow your heart.

Always follow your heart.

Your heart will tell you what to do. Your feelings and your emotions will guide you. Listen to them.

You need to listen to your feelings.

Remember, feelings and emotions, are the glue that hold families together. When you are younger, the emotions are very strong. There is a biological reason for this. Use it.

Listen to your feelings.

Follow them and let them lead you.

You must fight for love.
When there are things that matter to you, you need to FIGHT for them. You just cannot be passive about the things that are important to you. You must fight for the things that have meaning, and others might be hurt in the process. But you need to put your needs first.

And just like the music video… and just like the fairy tales… there actually can be a “happily ever after”. Just remember that you need to fight for the things that matter to you, and if you find the ONE… that ONE person that you want to spend the rest of your life with, then both of you should fight together.

You can achieve your dreams when both of you two are fighting together for the same thing…

LOVE is worth fighting for.
There can be a happily ever after. You just need to believe and follow through. Don’t give up. Don’t you ever give up. If there is one thing worth fighting for in this earth it is LOVE.

If there is one thing worth fighting for in this earth… it is love.

I really believe that if both of you share the same emotions, and both of you are willing to have a traditional, conservative family with a solid grounding in familial roles, there will be nothing that you cannot accomplish. [This is not a political issue. Many progressive democrats have conservative, traditional families. Like the Obama’s for instance.]

A traditional, conservative family is a time-tested 100% guarantee of family success with over 5000 years of documented proof. It is a family where the man works and gives 100% of his labors to this family. The wife handles the budget, the household and teaches the children.
The two family types and how they work.

While you might end up fighting against the wishes and desires of the parents to get married, do not neglect the importance of your new family. Establish it with a solid foundation.

Love.

Happily ever after.
And they lived happily ever after. And no it’s not a fairy tale. This is real life you all. This is the real deal. This is what happened in my life, and this is what can happen in your life as well.

Fairy tales DO come true. There is, actually is, a rainbow with a pot of gold under it.

Hugs as my favorite kind of love.

Conclusion

My life was from my time and based on my situation. I could get all involved telling the story about this conditions, and that condition, as every situation is complex. There is nothing really simple about relationships. Once you start documenting your own, you will find that it gets complex really… really quickly.

Yet, fundamentally, my story is one of love and cultural complexities. In fact, I think that a foreigner marrying an Asian, whether they are from China or some other nation, will also encounter some situations of relative similarity to mine.

And yes, while I wrote this little post about myself, it’s really about YOU the reader.

I want to impress to you that you, I mean everyone, needs to have the fundamentals in their life “locked down”, put in place and secured. That means a life and relationship founded on love, and created with a solid emotional foundation, and structured in a proven traditional way.

It’s a winning combination.

It really is.

It is a little like this…

The Video that I refer to.

In this post I repeatedly referred to a music video (MV) that I believe reflects the story that I am trying to relate. Earlier in the post, I embedded the song sung by Kiniyo. I think that she really “nailed” the emotions and the feelings of the situation quite clearly. Indeed, if you want to get “goosebumps” on you arms, you should go to a concert where everyone is singing this song together.

Who says that this is an uncommon experience?

Like this version of the song sung by A-Lin. Watch the people in the audience. Yes, this situation is more common that we in the West would assume. Check it out…

Now, the song (and video) is by a famous Taiwanese Chinese singer named Jay Chou. His Chinese name is 周杰伦. The name of the song is 听见下雨的声音 .

If you have access to non-restricted Internet (the non You-Tube internet), you can find the video at any of these websites;

If you are so inclined, you can see the lyrics (in Chinese) alongside the English translation HERE.

A non-Asian views the video

The thing is that this is Asian – Chinese culture. It is difficult for a non-Asian to understand it. They will make all kinds of inaccurate assumptions on what is going on.

Here we see an American chick watching the MV movie and is confused by what is going on.

An American girl views the video.
An American girl comments on the video when viewing it the first time. She does so based upon the visual clues and makes erroneous assumptions as she does not understand Chinese Asian culture.

Yes, she understands that the father doesn’t like the boy, and that they are rich, but she doesn’t understand that she MUST obey her father. And, she doesn’t understand that they are meeting at her house simply because that is the place where they can meet. (She orders take-out just so that she can meet him.)

Oh, and that “store” where she get the top is not a store. It’s her father’s factory, and she picked out a top for the boy to wear, and the father says no. So, it is not just any store.

American watches video 2
Even seeing the MV, and not understanding the lyrics or the cultural framework, you can be well moved by the video.

No, girl, it’s not as easy as you think.

She doesn’t understand that the boy is working four jobs, it’s not an option for him. And that mark on his face is a birthmark, and yes there are many people in China that have these.

She doesn’t understand that this is a formal arranged marriage, and who cares if he is handsome, wealthy and your parents like him. If there is no love, there cannot be a family.

Watching the video 3
To truly understand what is going on and why, you need to have some understanding of Asian culture. This is NOT America. This is China, and things can be very complicated.

She doesn’t understand that when the girl gets out of the car and runs to the boy it is not a cliché, that there are a lot of things going on and risks that she is taking are serious ones. This is not America, girl. This is China.

She might hate the story line because it is so cliché, but this is China today, and these things and events do actually happen. Maybe not in America they don’t, but in China they most especially do happen.

And yes, happy endings do actually happen.

Oh, BTW, I'm not trying to get in her grill. She just doesn't understand Chinese - Asian culture, and thus missed some of the important elements of the story. Besides, later on she comments on another one of my favorite Jay Chou videos. And, it's closer to what is going on.

The Song the MV is based upon.

This is a live version by Jay Chou.

Afterwards

After the hardship will be a period of calm and happiness. I promise.

It happened to me, and it will happen to you.

About Traditional Families

I am a big believer that you must build up a life with the ONE who you love. As such, there is a time-tested method to make your love last a lifetime.

That method is known as the “traditional conservative” method.

The trouble is that it is just about extinct in the United States today. It is not taught anywhere, and there are all sorts of distortions of what it actually is. Well I talk about it and go into get lengths to explain it.

You can read about it here…

The two family types and how they work.

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Contemporaneous Chinese Music

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Part 5C - The music of contemporary China.
Part D - The popular music of China.
Part 5E - A happy Joe.
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Part 5F - The popular music of China.
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High Speed Rail in China
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