Mindfulness is about finding peace within your environment, not by forcing the environment to conform to your rules

Honestly, it threw my entire life and career into chaos.

For the last several months, I have been in a legal battle with my ex-husband for multiple issues. This morning, my attorneys finally told me that his attorneys agreed he violated our postnup and his non-disclosures, which means I am finally allowed to publicly talk about certain things.

For the sake of time, I am only going to talk about the career side of it, because that alone has been a nightmare.

I own a business that my ex was a partner in. When he left very suddenly, his partnership was dissolved by myself and my two co-owners, which was 100% lawful and to our original agreements. Additionally, he informed us he wanted his partnership dissolved. We handled everything legally, quickly and clearly. He received his buyout, but he was not allowed to contact staff or clients he did not personally know, and he could not make public statements about the business or share any private information. His lawyers reviewed the agreement and he agreed.

In April, one of my staff members told me he had reached out wanting to “sit down and talk about a few things.” This was a clear violation of our agreements. My attorneys warned him to stop contacting anyone in my business, and as far as we knew, he complied.

In June, my best friend, who had been doing contract work for my company left. Our friendship appeared to stay the same. We still talked every day and everything seemed normal. Then in July, my assistant showed me social media posts revealing that my former friend was now dating my ex-husband. When I tried to contact her, I realized I had been blocked on everything. She was also bound by non-disclosure agreements that limited what information she could share/use to her benefit about the business.

August is when the sparks turned into flames. My business suddenly started receiving bad Google reviews from brand-new accounts that did not match any real clients. Around that same time, several of my actual clients received emails containing lies and twisted, defamatory claims about me and my business partners. Several of our clients approached us, not wanting to be involved in this shit show, and my partners and I agreed to let them go rather than pour gas on the fire that is our legal battles. This was a decision that cost us 7 figures.

September and October were filled with partner meetings and legal strategy sessions. My legal team billed almost 1,800 hours during those two months. The financial hit was massive, not including the two clients we lost who did not want to be involved in the situation. Four staff members also left for the same reason. I will add, I am still on amazing terms with my staff that left, they simply did not want to deal with this hassle that has impacted everyone, and I do not blame them at all.

Right now, we have multiple lawsuits pending against my ex-husband and his new wife, since they recently got married. On Wednesday, we had a meeting that we believed would be a settlement. My attorneys gave them the number we were willing to settle for, which was less than 25 percent of his buyout. They responded by offering less than 4 percent of that amount, claiming it was all they had. Meanwhile, he received significantly more from the personal side of our divorce. I was married to this man, and he’s not stupid financially. He also drove to the meeting in my Mercedes that I had lost in the divorce… so it is very clear he is not hurting financially.

It’s now November, and this situation is still ongoing. My business has suffered. My clients, my partners, and my staff have all been affected. This does not even include the emotional and mental toll this has taken on me and my family. I’m working with my own attorneys to create new postnuptial agreements and non-disclosures, as our original ones have now been considered broken/voided. I am not a fan of having lawyers involved with everything, let alone the entire court process, but I am at the point where there is no other option, and I refuse to allow the people I care about to suffer because a grown man cannot abide by legal agreements. So… That’s what my divorce has done to me. 🫠

Apple-Prosciutto Chicken

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Yield: 4 servings

Ingredients

  • 4 boned, skinless chicken breast halves (about 1 pound total)
  • 4 slices prosciutto or boiled ham
  • 1/2 cup finely chopped apple
  • 1/8 teaspoon apple pie spice
  • 2 tablespoons finely chopped green onion
  • 1 tablespoon butter
  • 1 tablespoon all-purpose flour
  • 2/3 cup milk (skim is fine)
  • 1/2 cup (2 ounces) shredded provolone cheese
  • Hot cooked rice (optional)

Instructions

  1. Rinse chicken; pat dry. Pound breasts flat. Place one prosciutto slice atop each breast half.
  2. Combine apple and 1/8 teaspoon apple pie spice. Place a fourth of the apple mixture on each breast half. Roll up and secure with wooden picks. Sprinkle with additional pie spice. Place in an 11 x 7 inch baking dish.
  3. Bake, uncovered, at 350 degrees F for 25 to 30 minutes or until tender and no longer pink. Remove picks.
  4. In a small saucepan, cook onion in butter until tender.
  5. Stir in flour and a dash pepper. Add milk. Cook and stir until thickened and bubbly; cook and stir 1 minute more.
  6. Stir in cheese until melted.
  7. Serve sauce over chicken rolls.
  8. Serve with rice.

Attribution

Posted by luvtocook at Recipe Goldmine May 22, 2001.

No, I don’t think they are obsessed with Java, but rather overtrying to “rebrand” Javanese intellectual property as if it is their original identity and Javanese people imitate it.

An epic and structured theft strategy but easy to refute because the basis of their justification argument is based on fairytales rather than empirical evidence that supports the claim.

This is due to political factors there, where the ruling feudal class tries as hard as possible to maintain the legitimacy of its power, even through structural ignorance of its people.

Historically, the feudal class there has always been vassal to kingdoms from outside their country, especially from Java and Sumatra. Therefore, the Javanese influence in their culture and their language is quite strong.

Well, the feudal class actually aims for this, trying to sever or cover up the reality that they were “clients” of the Javanese people in the past.

Based on Antonio Gramsci’s theory in State and Hegemony: every nation practices doctrine in two types.

  1. Organic intellectual type: a pattern of society that grows and develops in line with the reality that occurs.
  2. Traditional intellectual type: a pattern of society that grows and develops in accordance with the power structure of its rulers with the aim of maintaining the legitimacy of their power.

Nah, What happened to our neighbors is second. Their rulers carried out domestic political projects undercover, even though they educated their people with extreme brainwashing methods.

Therefore, the intellectuals there developed to maintain the legitimacy of their rulers, even though this was based on the argument “his son said he was my friend’s son” without needing to debate whether it was logical or empirically proven.

So if a certain absurd theory exists, if its content has value that benefits the ruler’s legitimacy, it will be justified even though it is illogical and lacks empirical evidence.

But uniquely, they are reluctant to let go of things that are identical to Javanese cultural products, which is why I say they are overtrying to steal Javanese identity.

Kris, Batik, Wayang, Gamelan, Borobudur, Djong, Reog, Ebeg/ Kuda Lumping, Cendol/ Dawet, and much more what they claim is theirs, so if we ask for an explanation for proof.

What they produce is not empirical evidence but fairytales, fairytales, and fairytales or the arguments tend to be freely made up like a short story assignment at class.

Ya, The point is that they went crazy like that because of domestic political interests for their feudal circles and that’s why they were designed to be like the anomaly that is happening now.

That’s why they look like they suffer from “Shadow Masochism” (but in the social context) because they have become the laughing stock of many people because of their absurd and childish behavior, but they are stubborn and continue to do this tirelessly, something that actually embarrasses themselves.

And what they don’t realize is that their habits implicitly, subconsciously, demonstrate a sense of inferiority toward Javanese people.

What’s even more unique is that, while they routinely belittle Indonesians, they employ Islamist tactics by pretending to be devout adherents of Islamic law.

They consider syncretistic Muslims like those from Indonesia to be heretical and try to sway opinion toward abandoning their classical culture.

Maybe they don’t know that Palestinian and Lebanese Muslims still practice a syncretistic culture, where they make pilgrimages to Christian sites to pray to Mary to become a respectful woman.

They might eventually adopt this culture after Indonesians have been “circumcised” and forget of their classical identity, or perhaps so that they too, because they are frustrated enough to seize it, will no longer have a classical identity.

Or simply put, they fail to have the identity they are trying to seize from others, so they try to influence others to forget the culture they previously tried to seize, or in essence: “I can’t have it, so others must also not have it” that’s more or less their motivation.

You could say that the motivation of their nation’s life is most importantly to be above Indonesia, even if it is only quantitatively (statistically) and overtrying to get praise from Indonesians.

It’s not surprising, as they’re essentially dictated to do so, and as a result, they develop a habit of arguing not logically, let alone presenting empirical evidence. Instead, they’re driven by their own superiority and attempt to subdue their opponents into worshipping them without ever having to criticize them.

Just notice, if there’s any content criticizing them, it inevitably leads to a narcissistic narrative (their favorite: “your money is cheap” or exaggerating their meager services to the critic) and an ad-hominem attack on anyone who dares to criticize them.

They’re not used to it and haven’t been systematically instructed to be critical. Therefore, their high egos make them antipathetic to criticism from others. And their approach to their arguments is also incompetent.

Groetjes.

It’s All Over… There Is No Turning Back For America.

 

China Airlines flight 006 in 1985. This flight was going from Taipei to Los Angeles.

Everything was going well for the duration of the flight until about an hour and half before landing. While the Boeing 747 was cruising at about 40,000 feet, the number four engine stopped working and the pilots were focused on trying to restart the engine. The captain was pre-occupied dealing with the engine problem without realizing the plane was starting to enter a steep right turn and started to descend. With the number four engine not working, the plane also was losing speed. And then the plane stalled and entered a steep nose dive.

The plane was nosediving at about 10,000 ft per minute. The passengers and crew all experienced up to -5G forces. It must have been hell. Both the pilots thought the attitude indicator wasn’t working while they were rapidly descending through clouds. They had lost complete control of the aircraft. The plane went from 40,000 ft to 10,000 ft in a few minutes. At about 9,500 ft, the plane broke out of the clouds and the captain miraculously was able to stop the dive, and fly at a level altitude. The number four engine was able to restart at a lower altitude. However during the steep descent, the landing gear doors had broken off, and the landing gear was down. This created more drag on the plane which forces the engines to use more fuel. The pilots declared an emergency and were able to make an emergency landing at San Francisco. Luckily nobody died from the accident, but a couple dozen people were injured.

Not only did the landing gear doors come off, but also parts of the horizontal stabilizer was ripped off as well. It was incredible the plane was able to fly with a huge chunk of the primary flight controls missing from the aircraft.

The investigation concluded that pilot error was at fault because the pilots were too focused on the engine and they believed their instruments weren’t working properly during the dive. It turns out the instruments were working fine the whole time. The pilots almost crashed the aircraft, and yet at the same time, saved everyone by being able to stop the dive once they broke out of the clouds at about 10,000 ft.

The Staring of The Souls

Written in response to: Write a story that includes (or is inspired by) the phrase “like a fish out of water” or “still waters run deep.”

Anita Kyle

Contemporary Romance Science Fiction

“Aunt Dolores, who’s that?” Kristen Joei muses, observing a guy wash a car. He doesn’t have a recognizable face, yet his aura is something she’s seen before… something similar to a ghost lost in her dreams. A ghost she knows, but its face is blurry.

The elderly woman hums, taking a break from the flowers to rub her gloves.

Kristen peers into the new man; a well-built fellow whose clothing is soaking in soap. His hair hides underneath a weathered baseball cap, but his shoes stand out the most. In near one-hundred degrees, he’s wearing stocky workboots. The leather is fading, the soles are too thin… She cocks a brow at his attire, but it doesn’t explain the stillness around him.

His head is empty.

Kristen can’t hear his thoughts.

Something about it is so freeing, yet an alarm rings out in her head. From a young age, Kristen could always hear people’s internal dialogue. Even if she doesn’t mean to intrude, people’s thoughts come to her as though they’re her own. Nobody knows where it comes from, but Kristen came to know it’s a double-edged sword.

“Aunt Dolores?” She calls, snapping her aunt into reality.

“Oh! Oh, yes, dear. That’s Lincoln. He’s quite good-looking, isn’t he?” Dolores giggles, brushing sweat off of her brow.

Kristen averts her gaze from her.

“Is he new? I’ve never seen him before.” She sighs, trying to get a better view of him over the shrubbery.

He stands, overlooking his silver vehicle until he catches Kristen staring at him.

Her heart skips a beat, immediately going back to the flowers that need her attention. Her staring is unwanted as she ducks behind the overgrown bushes.

Dolores laughs softly.

“Sweetheart, you’ve been here for a week. Lincoln and his family’s been here for years. His mother comes over for tea sometimes. Nice woman.” She dusts off her sundress before trailing in the house.

Kristen searches for Lincoln again, but his presence is gone. His car glistens in the blazing sun. She exhales, following her aunt.

“Does she talk about him?”

The ginger watches as her aunt freshens pillows on the couch. The ocean crashing against the rocks seeps through the windowscreens. Salt whisks through the warm wind.

As Kristen goes to speak, a sharp metal screeches through the stillness. She quickly shuts the windows.

“Aunt Dolores?” She raises her voice, but her words are still swept away from the opposing sounds.

“That boy is a carpenter. Nice young man, but that thing is so loud.” She heads to the kitchen, letting out a soft sigh. However, she points to Kristen. “You’re a creative person. You paint and write those stories for the news, yes? Not too far from woodwork.” She starts searching the kitchen for something important.

Kristen sinks at the kitchen table with a frown. She tugs at the ends of her damp braid.

“Not exactly…,” Her words hang in the air disparagingly. Her heart aches from her ability taking her life away, and from the nagging at why she can’t hear his thoughts. She’s so used to hearing what people think—and not that she wants to hear—it’s why is Lincoln’s head off-limits? Something is too familiar about him, and the freedom of it sends unease through Kristen’s body.

“Oh dear, what did I do with my apron?” Kristen catches herself reading into her great aunt’s head.

With dark eyes, she points over to the pantry where a green apron hangs.

“Ah, yes.” She grabs it with a warm smile, yet her niece isn’t reciprocating the cheerfulness. However, her expression drops before sitting across the ginger woman. “You’ll find another job, sweetheart.”

Kristen’s face sags in sorrow.

Her ability—or her “sixth sense” as aunt Dolores believes it to be—ran her out of a good journalist career. Only a few colleagues knew of her telepathy; it made her a good asset for finding hard facts, but they grew abusive towards Kristen’s ability. Political people started accusing her for blackmailing, or was an undercover spy. Despite undergoing a lot of threats she still attempted to bottle herself up into something professional. No matter what she did, Kristen’s presence made the news company look awful. The cruelty of people bruised her heart—the knowledge of being unwanted is still a painful topic to endure.

So she traveled to Maryland for a while. Somewhere to help her aunt take care of a house too large for one person, and to get away from being told she doesn’t belong.

“You’re not gonna have any nails left if you keep biting them.” She advises before Kristen places her hands on the table hesitantly.

The woodcutting machine finally dies out. The softness of the ocean below is a soothing balm to their ears.

Dolores chuckles slightly.

“That kid’s up until eight cutting wood sometimes. I don’t know how it doesn’t bother him.” She shakes her head, smoothing out the tablecloth.

However, the elderly woman’s words don’t make it to Kristen’s ears. She’s too busy staring blankly at the calm ocean.

“Lincoln doesn’t get many visitors, you know.” She cocks a brow.

Kristen quickly flickers to her aunt, her mouth agape.

“Oh, no.” She murmurs, swatting her aunt’s impending idea away.

Dolores nods, standing to her feet.

“Yes. Say hello. Introduce yourself.”

Kristen sits up straighter.

“I don’t wanna go someplace where I’m not wanted, aunt Dolores.”

The elderly woman sighs.

“Saying hello is not a crime, dear. How can you not be wanted if he doesn’t know you? Trust me, it would mean a lot to him.” She brushes her hands against Kristen’s shoulders.

The ginger exhales sharply.

Her heart is going in opposite directions: one part is warning her to stay away. He doesn’t know her; he doesn’t know of her ability, and a part of Kristen wants to keep it that way. Nonetheless, something else isn’t letting go that he’s different—that Kristen can’t hear his thoughts like the rest of the world.

She gazes at her aunt whose brows are raised. Kristen’s mouth forms into a straight line.

“Fine. I’ll go say hello.”

“Lovely. Tell him he’s welcome to come by anytime.” Dolores intertwines her wrinkly hands together.

She nods sheepishly, getting up from the table.

“Oh, wait. Before I forget.” Dolores grabs a notebook and pen from a drawer. “You’ll need it.” She grins warmly.

Cocking a brow, Kristen takes the gesture.

“Why?”

Dolores doesn’t hear as she’s busy taking out ingredients. It’s barely afternoon, and she’s starting to fix dinner.

“Shoo, dear. You have places to be.”

Kristen shakes her head before forcing herself out the door.

Over itchy grass and scorching pavement, she makes it to Lincoln’s door. The white wood of the house is peeling. The rusty screws barely hold from years of strain.

Biting her nails to a pulp, knocking slips from her mind.

The number one question lingers in her mind, yet she knows Lincoln would call her crazy. He’ll furrow his brows before scolding her, sending her into a pit of isolation again. The pit that still hovers in her corners, murmuring in her ear that she’ll never have a place ever again.

The door nearly swings off its hinges, spooking Kristen out of her trance.

A woman stands in the frame smoking a cigarette like the world owes it to her. Her thick blonde hair covers her days-old makeup. Yet, her hard features and sunken eyes is a stark image to Lincoln.

“What do you want?” She puffs out a smoke.

Kristen’s words die in her throat as a ring of smoke fans her face. She stares blankly at the woman.

“Dumb girl. Like a fish out of water.” The woman thinks, eyeing Kristen up and down.

The ginger snaps out of it, tugging on her disheveling braid.

“Is Lincoln here?”

The woman freezes.

“You’re here for Lincoln?” She scoffs. “Hey ma. Lincoln has a visitor.” She calls back, chuckling deeply. “Don’t go anywhere.” In a dark hum, the woman shuts the screen door.

Kristen watches in horror before quickly flattening her outfit. Through the hot air, her clothes start choking her skin; she should’ve chosen more professional attire instead of a tang-top over stretchy shorts.

She eyes her blissful aunt’s house from the painful waiting. A part of her prays that Lincoln is the loner type, yet she doesn’t escape the porch.

“Yo. Here he is.” The blond points to the stiff girl. She bites her cigarette, eyeing Lincoln and Kristen before shutting the door.

Kristen gives a nonchalant wave, trying to peer into his thoughts—all she finds is a wall. Her eyes trail to his blue eyes… Identical to the woman. They must be twins.

He rubs his arms stiffly, staring into her. His cap faces backwards, yet Lincoln stands in that same pair of workboots. However, something about his attire is softer than what Kristen saw earlier; his worn-out style is more endearing than she cares to admit.

“I’m Kristen.” She clears her throat. “I… live next door.” She gestures, but he’s unblinking.

Randomly, he points to her before rolling his pointer fingers in a backwards motion. He raises his brows.

Color drains from her fair face.

From his cargo shorts, he pulls out a notepad to jot something. He reveals what he wrote: “Nice to meet you. I’m deaf. I use ASL, but don’t feel bad for not knowing it. I saw you earlier. Are you new?”

She’s slack-jawed.

Pieces about him fall before her very eyes, yet that does not answer the sense of familiarity about him. It’s something else about him that does not meet the eye.

Kristen fumbles with her own notepad, writing: “Yes. I’ve been living with my aunt.” She forgets how to stand properly.

He nods, glancing over her writing. Lincoln taps his pen against the paper, continuously flickering his attention from Kristen, and his hand.

However, nothing else gets written besides peering into each other. The atmosphere is simmering in tension. The silence is killing them both, suffocating Kristen from getting to the truth.

She shakes her head. Even if she averts her gaze, his staring lingers on her soul.

That familiarness is closing in on her. She can’t tell if it’s the weather or her reluctance for criticism that’s making the humidity more sickening.

Kristen bites her tongue before forcing herself to write: “Do you like thinking?”

Before she can show him, footsteps echo behind the raggedy house. Kristen can see his sister come around with a lawnmower.

He doesn’t notice at first, but the fuming heat of the mower catches his attention.

“Weirdos. They’re still standing there… That blockhead better not scare her away. His ugly boots might send her to the hills though… Should’ve sold them when I had the chance.” The woman’s thoughts echo in Kristen’s head.

The ginger shakes her head before the lawnmower kicks on.

Lincoln sighs deeply, running his hands down his face.

From his sister’s criticism towards his footwear, something in Kristen breaks. She realizes the strange endearingness of his boots is because it’s a free choice of his… Worn-out with fraying laces, a pair of shoes she never saw at the news station. A place where she needs to hide herself from threats and posing looks, yet Lincoln walks freely. He doesn’t worry about being put in a bottle.

“I think your boots are pretty neat.” She quickly writes to him.

Lincoln pales before scrambling to his own paper. He keeps scribbling and erasing until he shows his paper: “I was just thinking of my boots.”

Her heart skips a beat.

She slowly points to his sister who’s oblivious to the world. The lawnmower roaring does not compare to the ringing in Kristen’s ears.

Lincoln’s expression drops as though he’s receiving devastating news.

He jots something in his notepad so quickly his writing is cursive: “Did you understand Linda’s thoughts too?” He hesitates to show Kristen.

Her heart stops.

The sweltering heat shifts to a chill that cuts them both.

Lincoln’s revelation is a mirror at what she’s been running from. She’s worrying about someone with the same curse turning her away when she’s the one rejecting herself.

They stand in an eerie stillness, yet their staring isn’t intrusive anymore—it’s a newfound form of understanding neither of them thought is possible. That familiarness from before finally shatters.

Kristen thinks away from criticism to write freely: “I can’t hear your thoughts.” She shows, but he’s already writing something of his own. Kristen reads: “I can’t feel your thoughts.”

Holding both of their notepads, they realize they’re the same coin, but different sides; they cancel each other out.

One of the most exclusive places in the world is located about 3 hours by car from Manhattan, on Long Island.

At the eastern end of the island, named Southhampton, is a strip of land called Meadow Lane. On one side of this small peninsula is the Atlantic Ocean, on the other, Shinnecock Bay.

This strip of land has become a haven for the ultra-rich.

The charm of this place lies not only in its spectacular natural surroundings, but also in its relative obscurity. There’s only one road leading to Meadow Lane, and since it’s a dead end, there’s very little traffic. So, you’re never disturbed.

The ultra-rich are therefore safe and at peace.

Another advantage of Meadow Lane is that there’s a helipad located at the tip of the peninsula. This makes it possible to reach your villa from Manhattan in 40 minutes.

However, all these advantages come at a price.

There are few houses available on Meadow Lane, and none under $30 million. Considering that the most desirable properties are selling for over $150 million…

The most sought-after areas are those that extend on either side of the central road, allowing access to the ocean via the beach, as well as access to the bay, where it is possible to have a boat.

Two properties have just been put up for sale.

The first is the Mylestone. Price: $175 million.

The second is the Oceancastle. A 1929 mansion with 19 bedrooms. Price: $75 million.

Meadow Lane is such an exclusive place that it’s almost exclusively reserved for billionaires in the financial world. Very few celebrities are found there. Calvin Klein has a house there. Perhaps the only name known to the general public that you’ll find there…

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If they are both infantry, I take the Marines with me into combat.

Since the beginning of Russia’s invasion, I have met quite a few American volunteer fighters in Ukraine. Most were former Marines, but there were also some ex-Army guys (I remember a drunken night with a former US Army Ranger).

Here is why I think the Marines make better fighters:

  • In the good units of the AFU (Armed Forces of Ukraine) where Americans serve, almost all of them are ex-Marines. That must mean something. At the same time, most American volunteers who serve in average units are either without former military experience or ex-Army. I don’t think this is a coincidence.

A group of foreign volunteers, three of them are former US Marines, in Ukraine. (Picture: All rights by the author of this post)

  • Two groups of foreign soldiers have adapted best to the enormously brutal battlefields of Ukraine: veterans of the Croatian War of Independence and former US Marines. It appears that these two very distinct groups (the Croatian war veterans being quite old now) share the same mindset. I have never heard of a Marine or an HV (Hrvatska Vojska, Croatian Army) guy running away or soiling his pants. You cannot say the same about others, though.
  • I also like the Marines’ culture. They are easygoing and like to party. They are not necessarily the smartest soldiers (that would be US Army Special Forces), but the Marines here get along well with almost everyone. There is not a trace of arrogance in them, which I appreciate. Again, you cannot say the same about some other American volunteers here. Some of them are full of it.

So yes, I go with our Marines, especially as the question is about newly trained people. Otherwise, I would have said former US Army Special Forces, but there are not that many of them here in Ukraine to begin with.

A Delirium of Ashes

Written in response to: Write a story that includes someone swimming in water or diving into the unknown.

William Reinert

Adventure Science Fiction Suspense

Liam gaped, mesmerized, at the octopus staring back at him. It hovered gracefully above its colorful garden of shells, polished stones, and sand-scoured glass shards arranged in intricate patterns. Some of the shells lay in spirals or mosaics. Neon-pink, blue, and orange anemones and sponges popped against the background of leaden, barnacled rocks, extremities swaying as the restless current dictated. Iridescent fish darted about in tight schools.The creature’s tapered, nimble tentacles furled and unfurled in an exquisite slow-motion ballet. Bioluminescent pulses coursed across its protean flesh, forming dazzling patterns that appeared to repeat at intervals.The display evoked Maria’s account of her “pulpo” dream.Is this octopus attempting to communicate? Sun dappled the sea’s surface far above, dimming and diffusing as it penetrated the marine environment. Liam found himself somehow respiring normally.Nestled in the cracks and crevices of the rocky seafloor, bleached, dying coral structures rose like towers from which clinging seaweed billowed in the current like breeze-stirred drapes.Scattered among them, he was stunned to notice, were a tiny xylophone and piano, a tablet, jigsaw puzzle pieces, and plastic gears.Baby toys! Smart baby toys!Out of the corner of his eye, he spied a crock resembling the one that harbored Joan’s ashes. A deepening, sandy murk obscured his view of the object situated in the entrance of the octopus’s cave.

Two humanoid shadows descended toward the odd pair from the surface, expanding in size as they progressed.

The threatened cephalopod jetted away from Liam toward its den’s entrance; wrapping its arms around the crock, it vanished seamlessly against the rock’s mottled surface. Frantic for a closer look, Liam propelled himself through the current to the cave’s mouth.

Reaching out for the crock, he was suddenly swept up and away from the cave in a cloud of ink by a muscular surge of current. The force disinterred the garden’s contents from the seabed, launching them into arrays that arranged and rearranged themselves into discrete groups of eight.

Octets … octals?

Suddenly unable to breathe, Liam launched himself toward the surface, his flailing limbs propelling him past the faceless shadows heading downward. Brilliant sunshine blinded him as he surfaced and gasped for air. Standing poolside and scowling down at him was his tall, whippet-thin brother-in-law, Wolfgang, clad in a baggy “SETI University” hoodie, the hood pulled down and tied such that Liam could scarcely discern his eyes.

From somewhere issued spacy prog rock not unlike that of the antediluvian band Traffic. Behind him rose an eight-floor building whose exterior walls bled into pastel hue after pastel hue. Neither steps nor a ladder via which to exit the suddenly and rapidly chilling water was evident.

Liam bobbed on the surface, catching his breath.

“You’re not getting any of my ashes, Liam,” his brother-in-law informed him.

“Help me out of the pool, Wolf.” All but spent, Liam’s arms labored to keep him afloat. He gasped for air as he spit out brackish water.

His panic grew.

“Not a chance.”

“Save me!” Liam screamed.

A wave of guilt washed over him at having been indirectly responsible for the grief and loneliness that had driven Wolfgang to join a cult. Despairing at having lost Joan’s ashes, he realized he hadn’t moved on.

“Talk to me, Liam,” a familiar, soothing voice prodded from what seemed like a distance.

“My brother-in-law is trying to drown me,” Liam answered his therapist, Mariposa Gideon, who was perched in her swiveler next to the sofa on which he lay. “Or at least he refuses to rescue me. I’m dying.”

I just said I’m dying …

“Remember,” she said in a soothing register, “you’re in my office, perfectly safe. Ask him why he wants to hurt you.”

“Why do you want to hurt me?” he asked Wolf.

“I knew you were stupid, bro, but you really swilled the Kool-Aid,” Wolf replied. “Your senorita’s just another false prophet, and I know one when I see one.”

Spoken like a true former cultist …

“Unlike you,” Wolf raged, “I can protect my sister from being obscenely exploited again, postmortem.”

Liam spat out more water. A deep ache seeped into his bones from his icy bath.

“So fuck you and your slash therapy and your Jesus Squad and your putrid joke of a book.”

“Wolfgang,” Liam cried, “I’m sorry about everything, but I have to have some of those ashes.”

“You don’t even know what you’re apologizing for.”

A flock of squawking African parrots, from which radiated multi-color coronas, flew by, skimming over the roof of the building before disappearing.

Surrendering at last to his utter exhaustion and despair, Liam allowed himself to sink into the freezing liquid, to which he was now completely numb. His eyes closed, and he lost any sense of which way was up or down. His resignation relaxed him, allowing him to accept his evident fate peacefully as he descended.

“I’m dying,” he related in a garbled voice.

“You’re transitioning,” someone far away said in a low, soothing register.

A deep peace settled into his lifeless corpse as it was buoyed by the current. The heavy burden of his newest failure relaxed and loosened its grip on his psyche.

“What do you see, Liam,” inquired the calm voice. “What are you feeling?”

“I feel peaceful,” he replied in his garbled voice. “The water is warming. I’m rising back up.”

A resurrection …?

Feeling himself back at the surface, Liam reopened his eyes to see Salvador, draped in a flowing iridescent robe, standing, or rather floating, before him. From beneath the folds of his robe crawled a swarthy toddler, eyeing Liam curiously. Colors swirled across Salvador’s robe, bleeding into each other and swaying, reminiscent of the octopus’s recent ballet.

Jesús!

Feeling reinvigorated, Liam floated effortlessly in the pool, steeling himself for whatever might ensue.

“The storm’s rising, Liam.”

“Fuck you.”

“Have it your way.”

The same fish Liam had encountered in the octopus’s garden broke the surface around him, belly up. Far above, the skies darkened. A parrot flew into a window on an upper story of the building and plummeted to the ground in a flash of neon green.

Gathering the last vestiges of his strength, Liam thrust himself from the pool, launching himself at Salvador’s legs. His arms closed around air.

“You drowned, Liam,” Salvador said as a baby’s wailing pierced the air. “Remember?”

He vanished as fat raindrops slapped Liam and riddled the pool’s surface.

Sobbing, Liam tugged off his sleep mask, squinting against the relatively bright office light. Gideon’s black cat, Netty, stared at him from his window perch. Soothing instrumental music issued from a speaker on the oak bookcase.

Gideon wordlessly handed him tissues and held his other hand.

They sat in silence as Liam mopped at his eyes and gathered himself.

Finally, he met her sympathetic gaze.

“How are you?” she asked.

“I’m OK for somebody who just drowned,” he answered in a scratchy voice. “And now I know what I have to do.”

“Oh, yeah?”

“I’m at peace with losing the ashes,” he said with calm resolve. “But I can’t live with the knowledge that he’ll keep abusing them.”

He guzzled water from a bottle.

“Or with what he and Biota might have in mind for Jesús.”

Twenty years ago I was working in a military hospital. A civilian worker broke into my on call room and attacked me leaving with extensive injuries and close to death. When the medical team found me I was all but bled out from a severed uterine artery after my pelvis had been stomped on and shattered. The first doctor there seeing I was mere moments from death and seeing I was bleeding most from my vagina did not hesitate. On the floor of that wretched room he made an incision above my pubic line, and with nurses acting as retractors he found the torn artery and clamped it. I was technically still awake but head injuries meant I was not exactly aware. with the artery clamped and more help arriving they got IV lines in, fluids then central lines all of which bought me enough time to get me to the ER then OR.

It was only after I had been in hospital many months that I learnt what that army doctor had done. He broke every rule, every protocol and saved my life. Cutting open the abdomen of an un anaesthetised person and rummaging around their uterus is in no training manual. In my time in hospital up to that point I had not exactly always wanted to continue to live. At times I had been a terrible and angry patient. Reading about that leap of faith made by him on my behalf shamed me and I resolved to both do better and be better. His actions gave me life and allowed me to have a life.

A great many additional surgeries later and with a lot of support from medical staff (one of whom became my wife) and my amazing family I actually walked out of hospital, in a very wobbly way. There was still a lot to do, and now twenty years later I still work to overcome the damage left but without his scalpel and hands I would not have found my wife, and we would not have adopted and raised five children.

My regret is that I have never been able to find that doctor and thank him.

Super-Sized Nurse Coworker Tried To Get Me On Her B*dy Count List, Instead I Got Her On HR’s List

India was absolutely fine for a long time

Things were pretty OK

I keep telling you, there was a time when the Chinese delegations would come and look with ENVY at our Tata Steel Plant and Vishakapatnam NTPC and take notes

We capitalized too fast 😞

If you are starved for many days and suddenly you see a lot of food, you go crazy and start eating and drinking insanely until you choke, vomit and faint and your system gets completely shaken up

China did this too

However China reined back successfully, we simply didn’t

We went after Education, made it a business

Opened thousands of engineering colleges, lowered quality

We went after healthcare, made it a business

Somewhere along the line money became the driver of everything and ONCE IT ENTERED POLITICS, ELECTIONS AND STOCK MARKET – IT WAS THE END OF INDIA


So No

India wasn’t a failure from 1947

Until 1975 we were well on track

From 1975–1990 we faced setbacks

From 1991–2010 we were well on track

From 2010 we lost the plot

Money + Politics + Share Market

This was the US formula adopted since 2000

This is the force operating most capitalist economies today

Problem is US had 224 years of development before the formula began slowly ruining them

India only had 19 years!!!

So everything was WRECKED and RUINED

They Came to China as Tourists.They Left as Messengers|| Foreigners demand change aft visiting China

The Walking Dead starts okay but gets really repetitive. The lore also makes no sense. You would think the writers could have just read the comic and reconcile all the plot elements ahead of time, but no.

In the first season it is established that walkers biting you is bad and turns you into a walker. Okay cool. Then later on in the prison settlement it is discovered that people who die for ANY reason will turn into a walker. Again, fine, but how could it possibly have taken this long for anyone to notice? After all this time, NOBODY died from anything unrelated to walkers?

And this causes a bigger problem; if everybody is already infected and turn into walkers at death, then why does getting bitten matter? Just take some antibiotics and you should be fine, bro. If the bite is actually transmitting some deadly fever that kills 100% of its victims, then that would be a worse problem than the walkers, a thousand times worse. But it is never discussed or treated as a separate issue from the walkers.

Besides all that, the plots were okay but started going in circles. We meet the governor, who is an evil dictator. Then we meet Negan who is, umm, also an evil dictator. “A” for creativity, guys. The annoying part is that the Governor could have had an interesting redemption or comeback arc but that was thrown away for no reason. And why was Negan such an asshole? He was powerful enough that none of that bad stuff was really necessary.

Oh, Glenn basically “died” twice in almost back-to-back episodes. He died “offscreen” but just kidding he actually escaped somehow, just to die the cliffhanger death with Negan? Lazy and sloppy writing.

I binge watched TWD on deployment, and what really started to annoy me was the inconsistent competence of the heroes. Sometimes they’re very smart and skilled. Other times they do inexplicably dumb things to move the plot forward. Like in that same cliffhanger season finale episode when they decided to send all of their leaders and best fighters in an RV to protect one pregnant woman. Literally why would they do that in the middle of a war when they need to stay together and preserve their numbers? Dumb.

Crocked Dill Pickles

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Ingredients

  • 16 pounds tiny cucumbers for pickling
  • 3/4 cup pickling spices
  • 7 stalks fresh dill
  • 1/2 pound garlic cloves, peeled and halved
  • 2 cups pickling salt
  • 2 gallons water

Instructions

  1. Wash and drain cucumbers.
  2. Place half each of the pickling spices, dill and garlic on the bottom of a clean 4 gallon crock. Put the cucumbers in the crock.
  3. Dissolve the salt in the 2 gallons water and pour over the cucumbers.
  4. Add remaining pickling spices, dill and garlic on top and cover with a weighted lid. Check every few days and skim off foam. In 2 to 3 weeks the cucumbers will be crisp and firm to the touch.
  5. Pack the cucumbers in sterilized jars.
  6. Strain and boil the brine and pour over cucumbers.
  7. Seal tightly and store in a cool place.

Oh, this one’s easy, though it’s a challenge to keep the explanation short.

A Japanese steel company wanted me to rebuild their operation. Given their history of turnover with US managers, it took eighteen months and I negotiated a five year deal with incentives. Four years later, we’ve gone from 70 million per year to 135 million per year and I’m making the same money as the Japanese president serving as figurehead of our company. I also crossed the CEO of our holding company, demonstrating to the Mitsubishi board why his expansion plans were economically unfeasible with a detailed market study.

Career-wise the latter was a huge mistake. I was trying to protect our local workforce. In retaliation, he forced our president into retirement and installed his protege from Japan. Protege institutes his own plan and alienates every customer we have. We lose more money in one year than we made in two years prior, go from top performer to the bottom ten. His response was to lay off 35% of our hourly employees and fire the entire management group. My deal has been up for several months. They keep me for a few more, pump me for everything they can get, and then make me the last one to be fired.

Only time I have ever been canned. Yet, if that doesn’t happen I would never realize my, ridiculous current success. I run the sales/purchasing/logistics, go to work in jeans and steel toes everyday instead of a suit, don’t travel 150 days a year anymore, and enjoy a much better income.

So, one year ago I attend a large meeting in Chicago and run into an old friend. He’s been named to rebuild my old company; we were colleagues at the same level way back then. The Japanese president that tossed me out has been fired, the CEO, his mentor, has been forced to take early retirement, because they’ve run the company into the ground. Folks, this rarely happens in Japanese companies. If you’re Japanese you get transferred. You don’t get fired. Early retirement is a loss of face as well.

My friend, asked me if I would consider coming back and trying to do it again….

Uh, nope.

the Most Shocking Scene Ever | Alien (1979)Chestburster Scene Reactions — Traumatizing 😱

Horses die because they’re stupid.

Most creatures need rest to heal when their legs break.

Horses don’t understand the concept of rest equaling healing.

They only experience pain = struggle = broken leg = more pain = more struggle = breaking even the healthy leg in the process—a stupid cycle they can’t solve on their own, requiring human intervention.

And a horse, being a giant beast…

Especially for animals like racehorses that require treatment, they generally weigh over half a ton. (Previously, the claim of a ton was criticized.)

Horses can’t lie still overnight. Think of a paralyzed person; they need to be turned over frequently to avoid bedsores. Horses, weighing 4-6 times more than humans, suffer even more from prolonged lying down. From their eyes and skin to their internal organs, everything can become necrotic.

You can try turning over your sleeping dad/boyfriend/best buddy (who usually weighs less than 200 pounds). How many times can you turn them if they don’t cooperate?

But turning over a horse… even if the horse doesn’t struggle at all, how many times can a caregiver do it?

And as mentioned before, horses are stupid; any movement hurts them. Their way of dealing with pain is: run.

This means that if you turn them over incorrectly, you’ll find a broken-legged horse lying dead not far from the stable the next day.

To solve this problem, experts have pushed their imaginations to the limit:

Anyway, reducing the horse’s leg use would greatly alleviate the problem, but… the cost is too high, and it’s more prone to infection. I don’t even know if spending all that money will guarantee a cure. The cure rate isn’t very high, anyway.

PART 2 – Husband Uses Wife’s iPad, Finds Graphic Pics Of Wife & Lover, Embarks On Mission To Ruin…

(Repost) Adventures Exploring the Cemeteries of Indiana

When I lived in Indiana, one of the things that I did was to visit every park in the state.  I went and bought a book showing all 25 state parks.  Then, my wife and I went and visited every one of them. When we were finished, we then went to the local library.  We looked at a large map of the county and then visited every cemetery in the county.

It was an “eye opener” and very informative.

Let’s talk about this experience

Many of the cemeteries were in isolated areas. We would get to ride on little used back roads that trundled through the rows of soybeans or corn. Then the road would dead end into a tiny space of greenery that typically consisted of some rare trees, a stream or two and some small out-buildings. The park would be lonely and often deserted.

While the grass would be tended to, it was mostly a three week to a one month mowing cycle and tended to be rather lush.  There wasn’t any kind of landscaping, or care for the weeds and plants that existed besides the tombstones. The headstones themselves were often old, tilted and leaning at precarious angles.

Barrett
Barrett Cemetery in Indian is typical. It is a small isolated location that often has trees growing in and around the tombstones. No one is there, and few visit it. Is is quiet and isolated and lonely.

We would walk into the park and explore the headstones. Many dated over a hundred years ago. Obviously the settlers had a hard life. People died early. Many died before they hit their mid thirties. Many families had nearby rows of tombstones with the names of children that wouldn’t live past three or four years of age. It was sad.

Sometimes we would find a family that would have maybe twelve or thirteen children’s graves. Each one would hold a child that would be from one years old to four who had died. The mother, often would not make it past forty.  Can you just imagine that life? Can you imagine the life that they must had had? Every year, getting pregnant. Having a baby, and every year, or every other year, having one of your children die. It must have been horrific and really debilitating.

Obviously the hard life, the harsh weather, the Indians and the illnesses took a toll. To survive they needed something. They needed God and spiritual guidance. I just cannot see how they would be able to keep on living without it.

The Tombstones

While many of the tombstones were simple (weather worn) sandstone affair, there might be one or two large edifices. Sometimes these would be out of stone, but often they would be cast out of zinc and looked to be in good condition. The zinc would be aged to a dark dull grey. These monuments looked good. They really did, with fine and crisp lines and decent appearance.

The stones, on the other hand, were worn pretty severely.  Often you couldn’t make out the words on the stones. Sometimes you couldn’t even make out the shape of the stones themselves.

Those headstones made out of cast concrete tended to be in pretty good shape. They aged, but it was just dirty old concrete. Sometimes green moss would form on the folds in the cast headstone. However, aside from that, they looked pretty good.

Tree style tombstones
It is very common to find headstones that look like trees. These do not typically seem to be carved out of stone. Instead, they appear to be cast out of concrete. It is a mystery to me as to what the limbs signified. This picture is typical and shows some moss and stains on the tombstone.

One of the common theme was large stone tombstones that resembled trees, with many limbs cut off. It is an interesting curiosity. One that I have yet to understand. I guess that for a time, it must have been a kind of fad. They date mostly to 1880s to 1920s, and are pretty unique.

"The elaborately carved limestone markers were popular in the late 1800s through the 1920s, when they fell out of favor due to their expense, and contain symbols that speak volumes if you know what they're saying."

Clasped hands, if the sleeves are masculine and feminine, denote marriage, for example. Ferns are a symbol of frankness or humility; ivy can symbolize fidelity; and wheat represents the divine harvest.

Many of the symbols have dual religious and secular meanings, but in both cases they eternally memorialize the deceased's ideals and philosophies..."

-Tree shaped tombstones let the dead speak

I always found this an interesting consideration to ponder. I would go up to these tombstones and see different aspects of each one. One would just be a simple stump, like a tree that was wholly cut down. While others would represent a tree standing, but with broken limbs, sawed off limbs, and limbs mangled and distorted. The meaning of this was always a mystery to me.

"...many variations: the vertical stump, the double vertical stump, the horizontal stump, the ledger tree stump, the tree-stump bench, the tree-stump chair, the tree-stump cross, the simple tree-stump base. They could be decorated with birds, books, firearms, flowers, plants, anchors, or animals, along with the signs of fraternal orders, from unions to the Elks to the Freemasons.'

-Susanne Ridlen, in her 1999 book Tree-Stump Tombstones.
Meshingomesia
Meshingomesia. A Miami Indian cemetery in Grant Country Indiana. It is quite typical for the cemeteries in Indiana. It is isolated, quiet and lonely.

We would look at the names on the stones, the one’s that we could read, that is. We would walk around the stones, and explore the nearby wooded area. As many of the few trees in North and Central Indiana were found only at the cemeteries. The rest of the land was wholly devoted to flat fields to grow crops.

Sometimes the cemeteries are completely overgrown. Here, huge trees would grow out of the remaining tombstones, and unless you looked and searched for the site, you would never be able to find it.

Sadly, a number of the cemeteries were converted to trash dumps by inconsiderate neighbors. The trees in the areas of the cemeteries that have become overgrown, became disused. Often, the groundskeeper would only mow or care for the “front” or visible portion of the cemetery and the rest would be permitted to lapse and revert to nature. Others, often uncaring, would dump trash there. Things such as old refrigerators, 1960’s era baby strollers and old interior doors with the round brass or stone knobs would be found piled in heaps at the one end of the cemetery.

Curiosities

When a person would die and be buried, often the relatives would plant a tree, or a shrub near the grave. The thing is that these shrubs would be permitted to grow. What is often considered a small shrub, after a hundred years, becomes a worthwhile tree. These trees are magnificent and something that you will not see in or around any suburb because the tree takes far too long to mature. Heck, it’s worth while just to go out and check out these magnificent tree-shrubs alone.

Another thing that is curious is the presence of ancient and aged plastic flowers. Sure they might have looked nice in 1970 when they were first placed on the grave, however time and decades have changed them into something else entirely different. Now they look like faded dirty plastic trash. Things that should have been discard along with smiling clown paintings, and vacuum tube AM band radios.

Where Built

Sometimes the cemeteries were built around an Indian mound. These mounds were part of the previous inhabitants of the area; “The Mound Builders”. We would climb up on the mounds and survey the surrounding flatness. These mounds were huge and often had very steep sides. Most were excavated in the past, and often European settlers were buried inside the mound with tilted tombstones remaining on the sides like broken teeth.

Ball Hill.
Ball Hill cemetery located in Indiana. Sometimes the cemeteries were located on a hill. Indian is mostly flat, except in the southern section. Thus hills were a rare occurrence. The places were quiet and peaceful.

The Mysterious Blank Cemeteries

Many of these cemeteries were well mowed, perhaps once or twice a week.  Aside from the groundskeepers, no one ever apparently visited these parks.  Many did not seem to have any headstones.

It wasn’t that the headstones were set flat to the earth. No. The headstones were missing all together completely. What was supposed to be a cemetery listed int he country map in the library seemed to be just a simple lawn of grass located in the middle of ample farmland.

They ended up looking like a flat space of a lawn at the edge of the rows of corn. Sometimes with a old fence around it. However, there were no headstones at all. This was a mystery, that is, until we went to the edge of the cemetery lot.

O'neal
O’Neall cemetery in Indiana. Where are all the headstones? Why such great and wide lawns? If you go to the edge of the cemetery, near the tree line you will find a ditch. Look in the ditch. All the tombstones are there.

There, we would find many of the headstones randomly tossed into a ditch nearby. Apparently, over the years, the groundskeepers just pulled the headstones out to make it easier to mow the lawns. If a tree fell down, they would just remove the tree. It was too inconvenient to mow around it. They did not care.

They did not care.

No one checked on their work. So they would cut down the trees. They would remove the bushes, and then toss the headstones into a ditch or gully at the edge of the cemetery. No one noticed. No one cared. All that mattered is that the lowly paid groundskeeper had an easy job keeping the grass cut.

Which was, typically a young couple. Either doing so as a favor for the church, or being paid to do so by either a church or the country. Rarely would we ever see an “expert” groundskeeper maintaining these cemeteries. Oh, they do exist. Especially in the larger city cemeteries. I know, my uncle was one. However, in the smaller, rural cemeteries it was another story entirely. It was almost as if taking care of the cemeteries were an afterthought.

Bethel cemetery
Bethel cemetery. Located in Richland Township in Steuben county Indiana. It is typical with trees on one end of the cemetery, but a total absence of trees near the tombstones so that the groundskeeper could mow the ground easily and simply.

There was no need for trees, bushes, shrubs or flowering plants. Any trees or plants grew in the ditches at the edge of the field, or alongside difficult to mow areas in the cemetery plots.

A Little History

Around a hundred and fifty years ago, people would go to the cemeteries to have “outings” and picnics. As such, they were maintained with visitors in mind.  People would go to the local cemetery, layout a blanket, and eat cold cuts and maybe a pie and enjoy the day.

Massachusetts and the rest of New England lead the nation in this pastime.

In fact, I do urge the reader to go to their local libraries and look this long forgotten pastime up. I myself did not know about it until I visited the Milford, MA library and looked into the local cemeteries there.

Anyways, Indiana was founded by hardworking Germanic people, who rather frowned on leisure, and it is no wonder that the secondary use of cemeteries in Indiana was ignored and forgotten. The people had a hard, tough life to live. They needed to focus. Over the years, their children became very pragmatic and concentrated on the things that mattered, and care for cemeteries and parks just simply became an afterthought.

Which, in my mind, is a real shame.

Ah. Indiana, what is going on with youse guys?

We are transient. Our physical existence is short lived. Make the most of it.  Be the best that you can be.  Enjoy life, and the people who surround you. For one day, they too will be gone.

Irish round tower

About this picture. It’s a cemetery in Milford Massachusetts. It is a beautiful cemetery, and right next to the Wendy’s restaurant there.

Father Patrick Cuddihy came to Milford, MA in 1857 to head the St. Mary of the Assumption church. He directed the construction of a traditional Irish round tower to be built on church property in 1895. Now, these towers had been built in Ireland to help monks escape Vikings and other invaders. They were, for a time very popular and extremely useful. When the village or town was attacked, they would run to the tower and hide inside. They were accessed by ladders that were pulled up to prevent penetration by others.

Since then, the tower has become a landmark, and people come to the cemetery to chill out, rest during lunch and picnic there. The cemetery is well maintained, with enormous, big and beautiful trees. It has wonderful Massachusetts stones, and perfect areas of greenery.

While people drive their cars out to the cemetery for lunch today, it was once far more common a thing for people to participate in.

During the 19th century, and especially around the turn of the century, snacking in cemeteries happened all over the United States. It wasn’t just apple-munching either. It was something else entirely. People would bring blankets and quilts to sit upon. they would carry baskets with cooked pies, baked chicken and sides of coleslaw. They would bring bottles of beer.

They would hang out. Listen to the birds. Play catch with a baseball, or maybe try to fly a kite. It was a place where you could go that was within nature and safe.

Since many municipalities lacked proper recreational areas, many people had full-blown picnics in their local cemeteries. The tombstone-laden fields were the closest things, then, to modern-day public parks. Instead of picnic tables, the families and couples would lay out a blanket on the grass beside a tombstone and enjoy a peaceful outing under the shady trees.

One of the reasons why eating in cemeteries become a “fad,” was that epidemics were raging across the country. The reader must understand that diseases such as Yellow fever and cholera flourished. Often, children passed away before turning 10. Women died during childbirth. Death was a constant visitor for many families, and in cemeteries, people could “talk” and break bread with family and friends, both living and (figuratively) the deceased.

An outing
People used to go to cemeteries to have quiet and peaceful outings together. They would have picnics on blankets and enjoy each others company. The cemeteries were well maintained, shady, with nice lawns of grass, fragrant flowers and nice pathways.

Conclusions

Cemeteries can teach us a lot about human nature and society. All we need to do is listen.

In the past, prior to investment in state parks and recreational facilities, cemeteries were used as local places to rest and relax. People enjoyed going out and relaxing in the shade of trees, enjoying the breeze and listening to the birds. Their homes, prior to air conditioning, were hot affairs, and people would hang out on the large porches and rest on “gliders” that would sway under the eves.

Many smaller cemeteries are treated as afterthoughts. They are maintained cheaply and are viewed as a necessary labor that needs to be maintained, rather than an important part of society and culture.

Take Aways

  • Exploring your county can be achieved by visiting all the cemeteries in it.
  • To see where they are, go to the local library and look at the map there. It will list all of the cemeteries in your county.
Map
A map of your county will list all the cemeteries in it. The most comprehensive maps are found in the libraries in the county. Here, the cemeteries are highlighted in red. Map is a map of a random county.
  • For us to appreciate where we are heading in the future, we need to have an appreciation of our past. A cemetery is a first step in this adventure.
  • Cemeteries are not scary fear-filled places, but a soft place of rest and contentment.

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Notes

  1. Composed 30OCT18
  2. Completed 31OCT18.
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