The secret of long term relationships; soup, sandwiches, and icy cold beer.

You can go all over the internet and find all sorts of advice on how to keep your love and life alive. Here is mine. I argue, quite convincingly, I must add, that happiness can be had by any couple that enjoys fine food and drink.

There is an old saying that goes a little like this…

“The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”

Oh, it might not be all that popular in today’s progressive reality of gender-less, role-less, lifestyle. But it is a very strong truth. If you want to keep a family strong, tight, and together, make sure that everyone is fed with delicious home-cooked delicious food.

You know, there is something very special about home-cooked, home-made food. Now, certainly, it all doesn’t have to be made from scratch. What is important is the care and attention that goes into the food preparation. Then, once the meal is made, it can be shared together with your loved ones at a table.

Traditional meal
In traditional conservative households, the meal is the MOST important event of the day. It is a time where family members can relax, talk about their day and life. It is a time where you can share experiences, stories, laugh, cry and just have fun all within a safe protective environment. The most important caretaker of this ritual is the housewife. For she is the rock, the anchor from the the family revolves around.

Let everyone else play their games on their phones. Let them grab a burger at the local drive through. Let them steal bites while they are playing a game on the computer or watching the news. That is their life. Not yours. You and your loved ones can enjoy a meal together in peace.

Nothing, absolutely nothing, keeps a family together than delicious food shared together without interruption.

Vintage Christmas meal in the 1960s.
After nearly fifty years of traditional housewife bashing by Hollywood, and the mainstream media, the idea of traditional roles and life is frowned upon as a throw-back to “The Handmaids Tale”. Well this article is the rare, rare push-back to that well known and well-understood narrative. It describes the joys of delicious food, and praises those rare special people who put all their heart and energy into cooking delicious nutritious foods for their loved ones.

The meal

The most important meal, is of course, dinner. But here, we are going to concentrate on the second most important meal. Lunch.

And, of course, this entire article implies that the family members will somehow work out an arrangement whereas they can share a mid-noon meal together (and if possible) a siesta afterwards. It’s not always possible in today’s world. However, with some planning and preparation, it can be part of your life as well.

Of course, there are many meals that can be used for lunch.

I like steak and wine myself, but here we will concentrate on the most fundamental of American meals; the delicious soup, sandwich and icy cold beer. Ah, who doesn’t like beer? Who doesn’t like a thick and hearty delicious soup? And, for goodness sakes, who doesn’t enjoy a wonderful well prepared sandwich?

I met a few on the internet. They are ugly sad souls indeed.

Pepperoni pizza grilled cheese sandwich with homemade tomato soup.
Pepperoni pizza grilled cheese sandwich with homemade tomato soup. When my Mrs makes this up for me, I get all twitter-pated towards her. She goes to all this effort, and it is so very delicious. Such care and attention, what a wonder! Food is a way for people can express their love for each other.

Now, you do not need to make the soup from scratch.

Many times, the Mrs. would simply get a can of Campbell’s (creamy) soup, add milk or creme instead of water, and thicken it up with cheese and crunched up crackers. Oh, I so do love a thick soup. Especially something like creme of broccoli or celery.

I never really appreciated thick hearty creme soups until I was well into my 30’s. But, once I was bitten, I couldn’t get enough of this wondrous, tasty and delicious food.

Campbells soup
Campbell’s soup can be obtained in China. However the American favorites aren’t all that popular. Instead, other favors are more popular like Borst, and clam chowder. The wife loves to take the can and embellishes upon it. Like adding rice to tomato soup, or thickening the creme soups into hearty delicious masterpieces.

Now, buying fresh bread is pretty hit and miss here in China. If possible, we will buy a loaf of fresh french or Italian bread if possible, and then use it. However, many times we are stuck with the various flavors of sliced white bread.

No matter. The creative can certainly work out a great sandwich out of it. It could be a “Dagwood” with everything, to a simple grilled cheese. No matter what, I personally enjoy all sandwiches with a tomato somewhere hiding between the layers of meat and cheese.

A bowl of delicious creme of broccoli soup.
A bowl of delicious creme of broccoli soup. I love to eat it “extra” thick with yellow cheese (cheddar) and saltines. It is so hearty and very, very tasty. You can make it from scratch, oh the person who can do this is a master chef indeed. Or you can “cheat” and use an embellished can of commercially available soup.

Delicious Soups and Sandwiches

I think that it is a shame that many people in the United States today has forgotten the importance of soup and sandwiches made “home style”. Americans have grown up to accept high-caloric fast food alternatives as the preferred ways and means to enjoy lunches.

Typical diner food
Most of the food that you can buy at a diner can be made at home for a mere fraction of the cost. It enable you to save money, and yet provide home-cooked, delicious foods for you and your loved ones, made exactly how you all like them. When you are saving such money, you often do not NEED to have a second source of income to support your accustomed lifestyle.

By eating healthy, with carefully prepared meals by those that you love and trust, you can not only lose weight, but eat better and spend quality time together. Gals, listen to me. No man will leave a woman who is a fantastic cook. We’d have to be out of our mind.

Seriously. Name one man who does not like to eat. Name one.

Of course, that’s coming from a traditional old stogie like myself. I cannot tell you what Justin Berber, Bill Clinton, or Ellen DeGeneres would do.

Delicious sandwich.
My wife constantly surprises me. She has made an all vegetable sandwich for me, and I could not tell that there wasn’t any meat in it. Seriously. All the vegetables were cooked. It was so very delicious, and she used just the right amount of seasoning as well. Amazing!

There are so many ways to make the soup and sandwich meal special. Personally, I think that tomato selection plays an important role. I also think that the selection of the type of onions (if you use them) are critical. Red onions taste differently than white or yellow onions.

The bread selection is important. Potato bread makes for great grilled sandwiches with melted cheese, but the Italian and French loaves with big air pockets add a special kind of taste that really emphasizes the meats.

Sliced rye bread and meat for sandwiches.
Thin sliced roast beef with cheeses condiments and sliced rye bread for sandwiches. Careful budgeting, and control of the budget has enabled housewives over the centuries to provide delicious and tasty healthy meals for their families. By careful budgeting, the household can be eating wonderful, carefully prepared nutritious meals every single day. The children would love to come home for lunch instead of eating the government-approved Michelle-Obama lunch menus.

There are so very many ways to make sandwiches. You can go all vegetarian, or go lean on the meats, and go heavy on the delicious vegetables. You can lightly cook the vegetables, and melt cheese. You can add eggs, tuna, sausage, meat spreads, peanut butter, or just anything that you heart desires. Let the chef of the house decide. You will not be disappointed.

I suppose that everyone has their own tastes when it comes to sauces. I have taken to using a oil and mayonnaise mix with a tad of yellow mustard on most sandwiches, but the wife loves to mix it up with blue-cheese dressing, and such exotic (for here in China, at least) such things as French, Russian and Thousand Island dressing.

Plain old mayonnaise or Miracle Whip can make even a bad sandwich serviceable. But with a little extra work, that mayo can be great. Consider mixing in any of the following concoctions:

Pesto mayo (Tablespoon of pesto per half cup of mayo)
Curry mayo (1/2 tablespoon of curry powder per half cup)
Fry sauce (ketchup and mayo)
Thousand island (French dressing, pickle relish, mayo)
Sriracha hot sauce mayo (Sriracha to taste, plus mayo)
Brown mustard mayo (2 tablespoons per half cup)
Mayo and cajun seasoning (Teaspoon per half cup) 

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Wonderful polish meal.
I wouldn’t even know how to get started making this wonderful Polish meal, but my wife would. She seems to know just about everything when it comes to cooking. I could find a picture on the internet, and she would busy herself trying to replicate it for me. That is awesome!

Primal Urges

Being fed well,as well as all the care that goes in the preparation of food is primal. It is our most basic of human instincts. From the moment we are born, we associate love, nurturing, care and concern with food. The nourishment that we get from our mothers makes a lasting impression on us, and shapes who we are today.

These primal urges stay with us all our life.

It impacts our interests, our relationships with family and loved ones. It determines the kind of occupation we would have, and our security within that occupation. In fact, if I were to be so bold, it is how we are cared for by our parents, most especially our mother, that determines how well adjusted we will be as an adult, and how substantive our relationships would be.

Special sandwich.
You need to understand that guys are simple. When we want a sandwich, we make one from what ever is on hand, then we eat it. Very little care and concern goes into it. However, a woman is quite different. She knows how to make special and wholesome delicious food. She will take the time to pick the ingredients. She will take the time to trim and prepare the meal. She will make the meal perfect. Those little details will keep her man running to her everyday without fail.

Food, and nutrition, was provided to us from our loved ones at our earliest age. It is encoded in our genetic makeup to love those that serve, feed and nurture us. It is this nature, this most basic and primal of biological urges, that the traditional family structure is based upon.

The mother, the primary source of nutrition, love, and education, of the children would be responsible for their well being. The husband of the house would go forth and earn, provide, and support the family. Given the contentious history of the world, he would also protect it and defend it from others.

Then after a tough day, he would come home. He would give all of his earning to his wife who would use the money, budget it, invest it, and use it for the family. As such, he would find the hearth warm. The children happy, and relaxed. He would find a delicious meal waiting for him, and a loving family that appreciates him. Know your history.

A housewife can never be replaced.
People, you cannot replace a delicious home-cooked meal by a careful, loving housewife with a restaurant meal. You simply cannot. Where can you obtain this kind of burger? Only at home, by a careful, and cost conscious, nutrition minded housewife. Why do you think that everyone was so thin in America prior to the 1970’s? Why? I’ll tell you why. They ate healthy well-cared for and planned delicious meals made by someone with love. That is why. Not the pig-trough dishes heavy on fats, starches, and GMO’s, not to mention the piles of sugar, currently served in restaurants all over the USA. The well-meaning, but ignorant progressives seriously messed up the nation. You can see the damage everywhere. All you need to do is know your history and look around.

This all being said, let’s get back to the matter at hand. That is delicious food and wondrous icy cold beer.

It’s the Details that make the difference

I argue that when a loving wife makes up a carefully prepared meal for her man, that he appreciates it far more that he is able to tell her. No, this is not some scene from Jackie Gleason, or All in the Family. This is the real world, not some kind of Hollywood fantasy.

Men, I do not care who or where, appreciate food. They appreciate how it is made. They appreciate how it tastes. They appreciate the care and concern that goes into it. they appreciate the love and affection. Indeed, when a wife takes the time to prepare food for her family; her children, and her man, it is a special time.

It always has been.

America has changed.
America has changed substantially in many, many ways from what it was first established as. Traditionalists, and conservatives lament these changes. While progressive socialists embrace the changes. They love the idea of there not being any genders, no rules, no roles. They enjoy the idea where everyone is equal. Anyone who disagrees with them are deplorable Nazi’s. So they say. Meanwhile, us “normal’s” just live our life. Nod our head, and say to ourselves “oh, they’ll find out. Eventually.”

That goes double if there is a nice table spread set forth before the man. I will tell you, it is hard to turn your back on any woman who lays out an excellent table spread. Who treats her man as the king of the house. Who lays out a great table cloth, with sliced bread and butter, fine tasty food, an a icy cold beverage, and then joins the man for conversation.

One of the things that my wife likes to do for me is to make sure that my beer is frosty cold. She not only gets the glass pre-chilled, but she takes ices cubes and smashes them with a hammer into slivers, and then fills the glass with them. The beer is then poured into the icy glass for me to enjoy. Listen people, ain’t no other woman, in this entire world, would take the time or give the attention to ME than my wife does. That is one of the very many, many special things about her.

Grilled cheese sandwich.
A grilled cheese sandwich is easy to make, and there are all sorts of ways to make it special. Like adding some peppers, or ham, or maybe a tomato, or some garlic inside. It’s all up to the housewife. Oh, and by the way, show your appreciation for the time, the effort, and the care that was taken to make these most delicious works of art. She would really appreciate it.

When you come across a woman who is smart, attractive and so detail minded for her man and her family, you would be an absolute fool to leave her. You know, people change over time. Your body changes, you put on weight. You get white hair, and things start to sag. But you know what, it is that forever level of attention that keep us guys coming back for more.

The Importance of a Strong Wife

I cannot state just how important it is to have a fine, caring and loving wife waiting for you when you come home from work. This isn’t the 1950’s where one you obtained a job, you were set for life. Today in America you can be hired and fired at will with zero notice. As such the bosses treat you like shit because they know that you cannot do anything about it.

And they WILL treat you like shit. Everything from being berated in front of your peers in a meeting, to getting a 360 degree review, to looking at his watch when it is time for you to leave for home. Men, real men, do not take this kind of abuse. But in America, the nation of Beta-males, do.

Oh, yeah. The world is a rough place. We’ve got megalomaniac bosses, HR with rules and regulations thicker than an old telephone book, and all sorts of requirements from blood drives, to free-overtime.

But you know what, when I come home, and my wife treats me like a king… well… I feel like I can take on the world for MY FAMILY. It’s like the character Uriah Heep. His home was his castle…literally. (There was even a rock group named after him. Remember the song “Easy Livin’?)

Uriah Heep – Easy Livin’
Urah Heep Album Art
Uriah Heep are an English rock band formed in London in 1969. It has had the same lineup since 2013: lead and rhythm guitarist Mick Box, keyboardist Phil Lanzon, lead vocalist Bernie Shaw, drummer Russell Gilbrook and bassist Davey Rimmer. Of the current lineup, Box is the only remaining original member. Throughout many lineup changes, the band has included many notable musicians, such as vocalists David Byron, John Lawton, John Sloman, Peter Goalby and Steff Fontaine, bassists Gary Thain, Trevor Bolder, John Wetton, Bob Daisley and John Jowitt, drummers Nigel Olsson, Lee Kerslake and Chris Slade, and keyboardists Ken Hensley and John Sinclair.

A real man, comes home to a genuine wife who treats him like a king.

I think that all men appreciate a good caring, loving woman. I think that he would be crazy not to. And even though Hollywood, and the mainstream media has ridiculed the traditional lifestyle to the point where it isn’t even considered, it is the ONLY household arrangement that has lasted for thousands of years and transcends cultures.

It is NOT a scene from the science fiction movie “The Handmaids Tale”. This reality has NEVER existed. Though with all the relentless media hype it sure seems lit it must have somewhere… but nah. It never did.

Handmaids tale
The science fiction movie titled “The Handmaids Tale” depicted women in traditional conservative roles as mindless zombie robots manipulated to do the bidding of the males in the community. It is a truly horrific movie and served the feminist movement in the United States quite well though promotion of a nonsensical narrative.

Listen up! You can say this or that, but the fact remains.

All men appreciate a good, caring woman is one who is an excellent cook. While there are all kinds of people, I have found that those women who love their family go out of their way to provide for them in the best way that they know how.

People, there is a bond that is strengthened over food.

Family cooking
The entire family appreciates a wife that can cook and cook well. We look forward to her creations and love to spend the time at the dinner table with her.

Of course, not everyone wants to recognize this fact.

There are, however, those who have lived in dysfunctional families, progressive families, or neutral-gender families that all tend to be very confused about roles and responsibilities.

They don’t apply themselves to their relations, and relationships. They feel that they don’t need to do so. They believe that roles are restrictive. They feel that responsibilities stifle their freedom. They believe that anyone who isn’t as open-minded and progressive as them are manipulated waifs that need to be liberated.

Instead they have their head in the clouds like they could be another Bill Gates, or a feminist version of Joan of Arc. In their mind, they can be anything.

SJW woman ideal.
It is fine to be who ever you want. Just remember that there are trade-offs to what ever path you take. If you do not want a traditional conservative lifestyle, then you can expect a very lonely life when you get older. Men will not partner up with older single women who do not give him the respect that attractive young females do.

Good for them.

They will find out that as they march this road all alone, that it starts to get very lonely. People need each other. We form families and love-strengthened bonds.

When they hit their 40’s childless, alone, with only their pets for company, let’s see how well they fare when no one visits them in the hospital when they are diagnosed with cancer. Let’s see how joyous their holidays are. Let’s see how much appreciation their companies and employers give to them for their “sacrifice”. Let’s see.

So they can drink their expensive Starbucks coffee alone inside. They can play on their iphone. They can check out the latest on social media.

Meanwhile you and I are going to spend time with our loved ones eating delicious food, talking about the things that matter to us, and enjoying each other’s company.

Delicious melted cheese sandwich.
Now, wouldn’t you love to drink a beer with this wonderful melted sandwich? I know I would. And that is the point of all this. Food is meant to be shared. It evokes thoughts and memories of love, care and nurturing. That is why meals with family are so very important.

In praise of the great

You know, you do not need to inject the meals with tons of sugar to make them delicious. (I once had a girlfriend that used to do this. I didn’t care too much for the sugar-laden cooking.) Personally, I prefer simple and clean ingredients with light seasoning.

Which brings me back around to the delicious lunch meal of soup and sandwich. (Yeah, you all were probably wondering when I’d get back around to it.)

Delicious soup and sandwich for lunch.
Oh it sounds so easy. Just a simple sandwich with baloney, mayo on white bread and a can of soup. But it’s not. Those are only the very basics. A woman, a skilled and knowledgeable woman can transform those basic materials into something marvelous and special. In the picture above you have three kinds of cheese melted on rye toast with tomato. Wow! And take a gander at that soup eh? This is amazing.

When I was a young boy, for a while I carried a lunch box. And inside that lunch box, my mother would prepare for me a soup (inside the thermos), a delicious sandwich inside a paper bag, and a piece of fruit. This varied from a apple to a banana and everything in between. And yes, it was easy enough to get candy and soda at school, we always ate our healthy lunches during lunch break.

Of course, I am from a different generation. Baloney was a staple, as was olive loaf, Braunschweiger, and peanut butter.

Delicious sandwich in need of a great beer.
Oh, the Reuben! A powerful punch of salty sourness that comes courtesy of tasty corned beef, Swiss cheese, Russian dressing and sauerkraut. With so much overpowering flavor coming from your sandwich, it’s important to make a beer selection that serves as a balancing tray for the Reuben.

A real talented woman can make the most amazing dishes. You see, a woman has the ability to put everything into anything she does. If she loves you and her family, she will give you everything. She will provide for you. She will prop you up when you collapse, and she will keep your well-fed and strong. She will make fine delicious food for you. She will never let your down.

Not, like progressive women do. Don’t believe me? Facts don’t lie.

Divorce rate in the United States over time.
This is a chart of the divorce rate in the United States over time. You can clearly see that the SJW feminist movement during the 1970’s played a major role in the divorce rate in America and the reduction on parental education for the children. This was coincidentally ALSO the time when the majority of American households migrated away from traditional conservative family arrangements to progressive arrangements wither there are no rule, no role, and no responsibilities. What is truly sad about this is that most Americans today, having been raised in families after 1975, have no idea how wonderful a traditional conservative family arrangement could be.

China

Of course, long time readers of this blog will know that I live in China. China is a conservative paradise. It is a place where Chinese traditions are enjoyed, appreciated, and protected from progressive liberal influences. In fact, if you even try to pull any SJW, or progressive moves, the government will come and arrest you. Next stop? Re-education center to strip-mine all that evil progressive thought out of your mind.

One of the things that I miss the most about the awesome American culture is the wonderful food. How about some awesome and genuine American food? Right? Am I right or am I right? Maybe something along the lines of this…

Ruben Sandwich.
What is better than a delicious Ruben sandwich? I like it served with thousand island dressing, and then I love to dip it in the dressing when I eat it. You know, the secret in making a good Ruben is avoiding having the bread get soggy. You can do this by enclosing the sauerkraut with the meat, and toasting the bread properly.

Eating American food, in a solid conservative culture is glorious. Ah, you’ve got to love China.

Here is a traditional, and typical, Chinese housewife.

In traditional societies, such as China, and America 50-years ago, the household is run traditionally. The man, as the head of the household, would go work and earn money and give all the money to the wife to budget. The wife, would be in-charge of finance, budgeting, and all domestic matters including raising the children and educating them.

Traditional housewife
Vintage American advertisement depicting an American housewife cooking for her family. This is sadly no longer part of the American cultural scene. However, in nations that do not engage in non-stop wars, they still do maintain traditional roles. This means that his scene, with minor cultural differences, can be seen all over China.

This relic still exists in China, though it has been modified to some degree by the necessities of modern life. For in China, multi-generational households run traditional, and conservative is the norm.

Here we have a housewife showing show she cooks delicious and nutritious meals for her family. So that when the husband gets home from work, and the children come home from school, this is what they can look forward to eating…

Anyways, and the big point that I would like to underline is very simple. Food is the way to people’s heart. Maybe the world has treated you poorly. Maybe you have problems. Maybe you are lonely. Maybe nothing is going well…

Share a meal with a friend.

If you can make it yourself, do so. It will cost less and you will be able to enjoy it within the privacy of your own home. Oh, and don’t skimp on the beer. There is nothing worse than cheap beer. Get the good stuff and enjoy it with your friends.

Here’s a steak grilled cheese to get you inspired.

Delicious steak grilled cheese sandwich. It goes great with a nice hot creamy soup and icy frosty beer.
Delicious steak grilled cheese sandwich. It goes great with a nice hot creamy soup and icy frosty beer. After a hard day at work, wouldn’t you just love to come home to a loving family and this waiting for you at the table? Most men would.

Conclusion

The truth and the fact is that most men that I know would be willing to give 100% of everything that he earns, if his wife uses it to make a solid, well taken cared for, household. FACT.

It is the progressive liberal socialist reality that says otherwise. In that reality it is one where there are no roles, no rules, and no structure. People come together, or not. Build a family or not. Divorce and find others, or not. It just doesn’t matter. There is no glue, or any thing of substance to keep the family together.

I urge everyone to revisit a traditional family arrangement. It will mean less income, but a much… much higher standard of living.

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Here are some other similar posts on this venue. If you enjoyed this post, you might like these posts as well. These posts tend to discuss growing up in America. Often, I like to compare my life in America with the society within communist China. As there are some really stark differences between the two.

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Space Cadet (Full Text) by Robert Heinlein
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The Pedestrian
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Starman Jones (Full Text) by Robert Heinlein.

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